Over the weekend I went to a wedding. My pastor performed the wedding ceremony and one of the things he talked about was supernatural love. Our natural, human love might not get us through in marriage, but if we have God’s supernatural love growing in us, we can keep our vows and build warm, intimate marriages that reflect His love.
One thing my pastor did was to quote 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 and replace the word “love” with the names of the bride and groom. I’ll be honest, it was a bit awkward, because we all knew that in their humanity they weren’t always patient, kind, etc. After wincing a couple of times, though, I did the same for myself.
Lori is patient and kind; Lori does not envy or boast; she is not arrogant or rude. She does not insist on her own way; she is not irritable or resentful; she does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Lori bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV (modified from “love/it” to “Lori/she”)
Awkward. Yup. But it also feels fresh and clean, and it helps me focus in the direction I want to go.
Love is patient and kind.
Patient: bearing provocation, annoyance, misfortune, delay, hardship, pain, etc., with fortitude and calm and without complaint, anger, or the like.
Kind: of a good or benevolent nature or disposition; considerate or helpful
These definitions pretty much mean we a need calm, graceful and (I’ve just got to say it) generous response to life.
Think of the most chaotic or difficult moments of your day. How do you interject patience and kindness into those moments? A respectful tone of voice, a helping hand, not taking something personally, staying calm when your toddlers tosses his dinner plate …
What does patience and kindness look like for you?
For me it means not getting ticked when I have to wait for my husband. It means not feeling resentful when someone tries to make their crisis my crisis (I can say “yes” or “no” in a kind, respectful tone of voice). It means being aware of the needs around me and making time to love of folks and be helpful. It means knowing that God’s timing is always best and that some of the crankiest folks are most in need of a kind word.
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A friend and I are reading and discussing this book as a part of our accountability group ~ Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way (aff link) by Gary Chapman Anger makes it tough to stay patient and kind. This book is a great tool.
Guard your marriage ~ Being a Spouse … to Your Spouse Alone (from Mystery32)