Decisions to Make

July 15, 2012

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive: 

Decisions, decisions, decisions. Life is full of choices. Pray for your husband to have clear thinking, to be able to sense God’s direction, and have the ability to make good choices.

You are free to choose, but the choices you make today will determine what you will have, be, and do in the tomorrow of your life.  Zig Zigler

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Annette July 15, 2012 at 1:33 pm

I need prayer bad. My hubby and i had a really big fight we both said terrible things. I feel hopeless and scared about our future. Not sure we are going to make it. Please pray. I am at my desk crying my eyes out silently. He is sitting on the bed we are both hurt from this. Not sure it can be fixed this time.

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Tami @ ThisMomsDelight.com July 15, 2012 at 6:26 pm

Annette,

Forgiveness plays a huge part in a successful marriage. Go to him and apologize for what you did wrong. Don’t expect an apology in return, but be sincerely sorry. It’s a step in the right direction and hopefully will lead to some discussion and forgiveness from both ends.

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The Generous Wife July 15, 2012 at 8:06 pm

Annette, unfortunately learning to deal with disagreements takes a bit of trial and error (and errors can be painful).

I would just own that you said some things you did not mean, you were reacting out of hurt and that you want to apologize. Ask him if you can try again later and this time take it slower and try to listen to each other. Remind each other that it’s OK to disagree and that there are many options to most problems.

Maybe talk about what to do if things start to heat up again (like take turns talking, take a 10 minute break, etc.).

I know it feels pretty catastrophic right now, but try to see it as a “communication issue” not a “marriage falling apart” issue. Acknowledge that it was a bad blow up, but that you love him and want to learn to communicate better and find workable solutions for your differences/problems/disagreements.

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