Listening is a Good Start

July 11, 2012

in the generous life

From The Generous Wife archive:

The other day I was watching a couple talk (from a distance).  They were constantly interrupting each other. Neither of them felt heard and as a result neither was willing to listen. It was a very sad cycle.

The moral of this story is that, in difficult situations, someone has to start listening and because I write to y’all and I have your ear, I’m asking y’all to be the first to listen. I know it is not easy when you feel unheard or misunderstood, but if you can listen, you may be able to start a new and better trend.  When your husband feels heard, he will be more likely to listen and then you have the beginning of communication.

If you usually communicate well, it never hurts to practice the skill of listening, perhaps ask a few questions. Listening deeply says you care about him and you want to hear his heart.

To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well.  John Marshall

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{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Kim July 13, 2012 at 3:41 am

We can be so full of pride and righteousness that we forget to just let go and listen, that we might not actually be as right as we think. Even if we are, it’s so important to listen to our loved ones. I always go back to how I feel when someone is not listening to me: tremendously disrespected. Is that how we want our most dear family members and especially our husband to feel? I think not.


Rachel February 21, 2013 at 6:33 am

I have no gift for knowing people easily and reading their body language and stuff, but I refuse to give up on trying to understand and know my husband! I won’t turn down help though ;) What are some questions that would be good (but not controversial) to begin to learn things again?


The Generous Wife February 21, 2013 at 3:23 pm

@Rachel You might try this collection of ideas for starting a conversation.


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