These are the women’s results to a recent survey on The Marriage Bed’s Facebook page.
I want to start by pointing out that this is not a scientific study. However, I think we can learn something from it. It is likely that the participants are married Christians (given the crowd that would see the poll) and they face the same challenges in life that we do.
When I look at the data (below) I see a huge amount of difficulty due to busyness.
I want y’all to hear me here ~ I do not want to minimize the very real health and relationship issues shared, but I do want to emphatically point out the busyness, stress, exhaustion, and overall lack of time for intimacy and marriage building. They play a significant role in the scope of sexual difficulty. We need to pay attention to this and learn from this!
Beware the barrenness of a busy life. Socrates
Why not take a moment to list your reasons for saying no to sex. What do you practically need to do to face and deal with those reasons? If you need to simplify your lifestyle, make it a priority to talk with your husband and then make the time you need to invest in your marriage and sex life. Even if busyness is not the most significant issue, consider simplifying your life where you can to make dealing with all marriage issues a bit easier.
WOMEN: Why do you say no to sex?
Too tired. 61.4%
It’s late and/or getting up early in the morning. 46.6%
We have not connected emotionally. 43.2%
He’s been rude to me recently. 28.4%
Physical pain. 21.6%
He thinks it means everything is okay, and it’s not. 19.3%
I feel it’s all he wants me for. 14.8%
It would take way too much time and effort to climax. 14.8%
I don’t like how I look. 13.6%
There is never enough foreplay. 10.2%
I’ve rarely or never climax. 10.2%
Not enough privacy. 9.1%
If I do, he “wins”. 6.8%
He does not take care of me sexually – when he’s done, he thinks it’s over. 6.8%
He does not turn me on. 6.8%
He smells bad. 5.7%
He’s too rough. 3.4%
I think sex is wrong or gross. 3.4%
He always wants to do things I don’t like. 2.3%
I just don’t love him anymore. 1.1%
Lack of comfort, lack of cleanliness, menstruation, pregnancy, the interruption of small children, health conditions or sickness, husband’s lack of sexual interest, lack of sexual desire, relationship issues and fear of vulnerability.
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A little shy? ~ Can’t Speak Your Fantasy? Put it on a Post-it (from Making Love in a Microwave)
Nice summer time idea ~ Hello To Summer Date Night (from The Romantic Vineyard)