The other morning, my husband and I fell into discussion about a very difficult time in our history. We had been bad mouthed and generally treated like poo. Our talk wound up being an examination of how we were doing a year or so down the road.
As we talked about our feelings and how we had responded to the situation, my husband made the comment, “I’m sorry I didn’t protect you better.” The reality was, he had done a great job, but I understood his sentiment. You don’t want to see your spouse hurt and there is always that “I wish I could have done more” feeling. I felt the same way about him.
I started thinking about the concept of protection and how we can protect our spouse. I know our guys are made of tough stuff and we aren’t called to protect them quite the same way that they protect us, but there are things we can do and say that “protect” and generally make our guy’s world a better and safer place.
Off the top of my head I can think of a few things (please add your thoughts as a comment).
1. Protect his reputation by speaking respectfully and kindly to him and about him. (By extension, I would say don’t talk bad about his friends and family.)
2. Be aware of his activities, speech and relationships. Do share your perspectives when you think something is going awry. Forewarned is forearmed.
3. Be a warm and creative lover. (Our guys get hit from all sides by sexual temptation.)
4. Pray … and then pray some more.
I don’t know about y’all, but I could always do with more “I’m glad I did” and less “I wish I had.” Protect your man.
Be proactive–not reactive–towards safety. Author Unknown
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