We Need a Contest ~ Prayer Helps

May 17, 2012

in the generous life

Contest time!

When you pray for your husband what do you ask for?
What scriptures help frame your prayers?
Are there any books or helps for prayer that you like?

Share your ideas as a comment to this post. I’ll generate a random number and the author of the comment on that spot will win ~ a copy of Real Marriage (aff link) by Mark & Grace Driscoll (book or Kindle, winner’s choice).

I’ll announce a winner on May 31st.


Perspectives to consider ~ Third Alternatives to Children / No Children (from Assume Love)


Nice. Nice. Nice. ~ Influence. You Already Have It. (from Becoming Minimalist) How to use the influence you already have.



{ 36 comments… read them below or add one }

Mo McCullough May 17, 2012 at 12:35 pm

I pray for his leadership, health and parenting.


Sandi Ashcraft May 17, 2012 at 1:08 pm

I love “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. The book & the workbook are great. I also have a prayer journal just for him where I claim and write down scriptures for him/us. My ladies Bible study group is using this 31 days of praying for your husband guide :

31 Days of Praying for Your Husband:

“She does him good . . .” (Proverbs 31:12a)
Bless your husband by praying for him! The Apostle Paul instructed all Christians to pray for one another (Ephesians 6:18). This includes wives’ responsibility and privilege to pray for their husbands. Earnest prayer for your husband is good for him, for you and the spiritual health of your home (Proverbs 31:11-12).
Satan desires to destroy your husband, especially his character and his leadership in your relationship. Trust God through prayer as you daily surrender your husband and marriage to the Lord’s wise, loving care.

Day 1 Pray that your husband will grow spiritually and consider his accountability before the Lord. Pray that he will guard his heart by developing spiritual disciplines—Bible reading and study, prayer, meditation, scripture memorization, etc. (2 Peter 3:18; Prov. 4:23)

Day 2 Pray that your husband’s relationship with God and His Word will bear fruit in his life. Pray that he will be a man of wisdom and understanding, fearing the Lord. (Prov. 3:7, 9:10; Ps. 112:1)

Day 3 Pray that your husband will be humble and quick to agree with God about his sin. Pray that his heart will be tender toward the voice of the Lord. (Ps. 51:2-4; Micah 6:8)

Day 4 Pray that your husband will grow in leadership skills in your relationship—protecting and providing for you. Pray that he will lead you wisely and love you sacrificially, so that God will be glorified in your marriage. (Eph. 5:25-29; Col. 3:19)

Day 5 Pray that your husband will be faithful to his wedding vows. Pray that he will have a desire to cultivate your relationship as a sign of his loyalty and commitment to you, and as a picture of Christ’s love for the Church. (Prov. 20:6; Gen. 2:24)

Day 6 Pray that your husband will love righteousness and hate wickedness, especially the evils of the culture. Pray that he will recognize and avoid wickedness in his own life, and if necessary, take a clear, strong stand against evil. (Prov. 27:12; John 17:15; 1 Cor. 10:12-13)

Day 7 Pray that your husband will safeguard his heart against inappropriate relationships with the opposite sex. Pray that his heart will be pure and undivided in his commitment to you. (Prov. 6:23-24, 26; Rom. 13:14)

Day 8 Pray that your husband will work hard to provide for your family, to the best of his ability. Pray that the character qualities necessary for a successful career and ministry will be a growing part of his character—persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, positive relationships with people, determination, etc. (Rom. 12:11; 1 Cor. 15:58)

Day 9 Pray that your husband handle finances wisely, will have discernment concerning budgeting and investments, and will be a good steward of his money in regard to giving to the Lord’s work. Pray that money will not become a source of discord in your family. (Prov. 23:4-5; Rom. 12:13; Heb. 13:5)

Day 10 Pray that your husband will cultivate strong integrity, and not compromise his convictions. Pray that his testimony will be genuine, that he will be honest in his business dealings, and will never do anything that he needs to hide from others. (Prov. 20:7; 1 Tim. 1:5, 3:7; Eph. 6:10-12)

Day 11 Pray that your husband will have a humble, teachable spirit and a servant’s heart before the Lord. Pray that he will listen to God and desire to do His will. (Prov. 15:33; Eph. 6:6)

Day 12 Pray that your husband will yield his sexual drive to the Lord and practice self control. Pray that your sexual intimacy together will be fresh, positive, and a reflection of selfless love. (Prov. 5:15, 18; 1 Cor. 7:3; Song of Solomon 7:10)

Day 13 Pray that your husband use practical skills to build your family and make wise decisions for your welfare. Pray that he will serve unselfishly. (Gal. 5:13; Phil. 2:3-4)

Day 14 Pray that your husband will speak words that build you and your family, and reflect a heart of love. Pray that he will not use filthy language. (Prov. 18:21; Eph. 4:29)

Day 15 Pray that your husband will choose his friends wisely. Pray that God will bring him men who will encourage his accountability before God, and will not lead him into sin. (Prov. 13:20; Prov. 27:17)

Day 16 Pray that your husband will choose healthy, God-honoring activities. Pray that he will not live in bondage to any questionable habits or hobbies, but that he will experience freedom in holiness as he yields to the Spirit’s control. (1 Cor. 6:12, 10:31; 2 Tim. 2:4)

Day 17 Pray that your husband will enjoy his manliness as he patterns his life after Christ and strong men in the faith. Pray for his physical, emotional, mental, social and spiritual strength. (Eph. 3:16; 1 Peter 2:21; 1 Cor. 10:11)

Day 18 Pray that your husband will have an eternal perspective—living in light of eternity. Pray that he will reject materialism and temporal values and put God first in his life. (Matt. 6:33; Deut. 6:5; Eph. 5:16; Ps. 90:12)

Day 19 Pray that your husband will be patient and a man of peace. Pray that he will not give in to anger, but will allow the Holy Spirit to control his responses. (Rom. 14:19; Ps. 34:14)

Day 20 Pray that your husband will yield his mind and thoughts to the Lord. Pray that he will not entertain immoral or impure thoughts, and that he will resist the temptation to indulge in pornography. (Prov. 27:12; 2 Cor. 10:5)

Day 21 Pray that your husband will learn how to relax in the Lord and, in his greatest times of stress, find joy and peace in his relationship with God. Pray that he will submit his schedule to the Lord. (Neh. 8:10; Prov. 17:22; Ps. 16:11)

Day 22 Pray that your husband will practice forgiveness in your relationship and with others. Pray that he will recognize any roots of bitterness, and yield any resentment and unforgiving attitudes to the Lord. (Eph. 4:32; Heb. 12:15)

Day 23 Pray that your husband will be a good father—disciplining his children wisely and loving them unconditionally. If he is not a father, pray that he will find a young man to mentor in the things of the Lord. (Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; 2 Tim. 2:1-2)

Day 24 Pray that your husband will have a balanced life—that he will balance work and play. Pray that he will fear God, but also gain favor with people he knows at work and church. (Luke 2:52; Prov. 13:15)

Day 25 Pray that your husband will be courageous in his stand against evil and injustice, and that he will stand for the truth. Pray that he will protect you and your family from Satan’s attacks. (Ps. 31:24; Eph. 6:13; Ps. 27:14)

Day 26 Pray that your husband will discover and live his God-given purpose. Pray that he will offer all his dreams to the Lord, and pursue only those goals that will bring God glory and count for eternity. (Jer. 29:11; 1 Cor. 10:31)

Day 27 Pray that your husband will understand the importance of taking care of his body—the temple of the Holy Spirit—for the glory of God. Pray that he will practice self-control by making wise food choices, and get sufficient exercise to stay healthy. (Rom. 12:1-2; 1 Cor. 6:19-20, 9:27)

Day 28 Pray that your husband will be a man of prayer. Pray that he will seek and pursue God in purposeful quiet times. (1 Thess. 5:17; Luke 22:46; James 5:16)

Day 29 Pray that your husband will surrender his time and talents to the Lord. Pray that his spiritual gifts will be manifest in his career, at church, and in your home. (Eph. 5:15-16; 1 Cor. 12:4, 7)

Day 30 Pray that your husband will serve God and others with pure motives. Pray that he will obey the Lord from his heart, and glorify Him in everything. (1 Cor. 10:13; John 7:17-18; Col. 3:23-24)

Day 31 Pray that your husband will recognize the lies of the Enemy in his life. Pray that his

attitudes and actions will be guided by the truth as he brings his thoughts into captivity to the

Word of God. (John 8:44; 2 Cor. 10:4-5)


Amy Ellsworth May 17, 2012 at 1:10 pm

I pray that God would give him wisdom with the decisions that he has to make. I also pray that he finds joy in the work he is doing and that he does his work unto the Lord. I then thank the Lord that my husband has a job and that he gets up day in and day out and goes to work to support our family, no matter how tough things are at work.


ashley May 17, 2012 at 1:38 pm

Praying for my husband has been one of the most amazing things! God is so good and totally reveals what is on my heart and how I need to be praying more for my husband, every time I do pray for him.

I loved the book “Power of a praying wife” By Stormie Omaritan. It was great at giving me some perspective.

I pray a lot for encouragement, peace, wisdom and strength for my husband. It is awesome to see how God answers those prayers!


Erin Pedersen May 17, 2012 at 1:56 pm

I pray that the Word of Christ would dwell in him richly, and that Christ would allow him to persevere until the end.


Shirley May 17, 2012 at 2:21 pm

My prayer help is a card named Lifting My Husband Through Prayer published by Family Life @ http://www.familylife.com


Julie May 17, 2012 at 2:21 pm

Col 4:12 …always labouring fervently for you in prayers, that ye may stand perfect and complete in all the will of God.

My prayer for my husband who has so many responsibilities.


Carla K. May 17, 2012 at 3:23 pm

I am in an unequally yoked marriage, so my prayer is that my husband will become a man after God’s own heart. “The Power of a Praying Wife” has helped me through some very dark times. I am currently reading “Sacred Marriage” by Gary Thomas.. which asks “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?”


Heidi May 17, 2012 at 4:48 pm

I have been praying for us to grow stronger together lately. I love reading all the suggestions in the above comments. I need to expand my prayers for my husband with all this books for sure!


Jenny May 17, 2012 at 5:39 pm

My son and I pray together every night for “Dada,” as he works in the evenings. We ask the Lord to protect Marc’s thoughts, his body, and his spirit. We pray for wisdom and confidence to lead our family and our decisions. We ask for energy, joy and encouragement as he goes about his work. We pray that we all would have open eyes to be enthralled with what God IS doing around us and how He wants to use us, as opposed to being consumed by thoughts of what He isn’t doing.


whitney pendell May 17, 2012 at 6:25 pm

The thing I pray for most for my husband is wisdom. As I read through Proverbs each day, I’ll often stop at a verse that talks about what a wise man does and pray that specific phrase for him.


Jody May 17, 2012 at 7:15 pm

The power of a praying wife! It has 31 prayers, one for each day of the month !


Adam's Eve May 17, 2012 at 8:15 pm

I pray for wisdom and strength for my husband. I also pray for energy for him when he’s working long nights. I usually write a Bible verse on his notes for work and I pray those over him before he leaves.


Emily May 17, 2012 at 8:47 pm

I just started following the 31 Days of Praying for Your Husband plan at reviveourhearts.com. I’ve been posting each day’s prayer in my own words on my blog (nosleeptillkindergarten.blogspot.com) because I like journaling my prayers so I can look back and go, “Yeah, I prayed for that and GOD MADE IT HAPPEN!” Also, keeping a journal that others are reading makes me accountable to remember to pray for him everyday. My friends and other readers will call me out of I forget to follow the plan!


Naomi May 17, 2012 at 10:05 pm

For all of our married life my husband has suffered from a serious migraine condition that leaves him in pain 5+ days a week. So, my most recurrent prayer for him is for healing.


Melissa Jones May 17, 2012 at 10:39 pm

My husband suffers from ADD (yes, he suffers although it’s not physical pain). One of the hardest parts of that is his habit of thinking negatively – always having a chorus in his head telling him that he’s a failure or not good enough. So I pray that he will hear (and more importantly believe) truth over the lies in his head.

Recently I’ve also prayed that he would become more like Christ….but quickly changed that prayer to praying that _I_ would become more like Christ.


Megan@DoNotDisturb May 18, 2012 at 4:06 am

I regularly pray Col 1:9-12 for my husband. I also find Ruth Myers 31 days of Prayer and 31 days of Praise to be very beneficial in my personal prayer times.



Tammy Wilson May 18, 2012 at 4:15 am

Hi, I think prayer is very important. I find it comforting to pray for my spouse. I often pray without aides, but there is one that I particularly like from Sharon Jaynes’ book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. In her appendix on page 265, she has a section on “praying scriptual prayers for your husband from head to toe.” Starting at:
His Head (ex. Eph 5:23; 1 Cor 11:3)
His Mind (2 Tim 1:7; 2 Cor 10:5)
His Eyes (Matt 6:13; Matt 5:28)
His Ears (1 Kings 9:12; Isiah 50:5)
His Mouth (Psalm 19:14; Eph 4:29)
His Neck (Nehemiah 9:29; John 14:15)
His Arms (Psalm 73:26; Mark 12:30; Song of Songs 2:6; Prov 5:20,I added 18-19)
His Hands (Ecc. 3:13; Psalm 18:20)
His Heart (Deut 6:5;Prov 4:23)
His Side (Prov 28:23; James 5:19 added by me)
His Body in General (1 Cor 3:16; Prov 3:7-8)
His Legs (2 Thess 2:15; Isiah 40:29-31)
His Feet (Prov 13:20; 1 John 1:7)

These are only a few of the versus. You could pray over all of them or break them down by day. I believe she is a solid Christian writer. I can attest to spiritual protection and blessings from the Lord through these prayers. It is our first line of defense and should always be our line of offense! Blessed is the wife who prays for her husband. :o)


Becky May 18, 2012 at 4:30 am

My main prayer is that my husband will continue to learn to connect with God and know Him better, especially so he can be a strong spiritual leader for me and our kids. I guess I don’t have particular scriptures or books.


Cherl May 18, 2012 at 7:07 am

I pray for strength, wisdom, power over the enemy and temptations, his ability to witness to those he’s around. I thank God for giving him to me, and for the way he so graciously cares for me and ur children.


Katelyn May 18, 2012 at 8:51 am

I love 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 as a starting point for prayer! “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.” I want to be a woman whose prayers are full of rejoicing and thankfulness :)


Tanya May 18, 2012 at 8:58 am

I pray for my husband most while he is at work. I pray that he has success in his workplace, favor with his employers, a good witness in the darkness. I pray that he would grow deeper in his relationship with the Lord. And I pray that he would be able to stand up against and overcome temptation (especially every time I drive by an “adult video” store in town, those always get me praying!).


Barbara May 18, 2012 at 12:23 pm

I <3 The idea of praying from head to toe! Thanks to the ladies who contributed those ideas. Thanks to you Lori for giving us a place to share!


Ginger May 18, 2012 at 3:51 pm

I pray that he will stay the amazing kind loving man that he already is! And I pray for him to have peace and joy everyday <3


Tanya Carlin May 18, 2012 at 7:04 pm

When I talk to God about my husband its usually full of thanksgiving (even if I don’t feel it). I pray God’s direction in my husbands decision making and respectful words/help from me when needed. A book that has helped me in my role as wife and mother is ‘Feminine Appeal 7 virtues of a Godly wife and mother’. Apart from the Bible itself this book has shown me where and how I can glorify God in a practical way.


Donnelle May 19, 2012 at 12:17 pm

I pray that my husband will make good christian male friends (the desire of his heart). I pray that he would have favour in his work place. And like many other woman i thank God for giving me a generous husband, a man of God, one who is showing me daily not only how much he loves me but how much The Father loves me also.
Thank you ladies for all your amazing comments. They give me so much inspiration.


Tara May 20, 2012 at 10:40 am

I pray this his soul is arrested by the truth and power of the gospel. For the Holy Spirit to give holy CPR to a heart that appears cold and dead. For the scales to fall from his eyes. For today to be his Damascus road encounter. For his heart, soul and mind to be awakened and astounded at the powerful work of Jesus’ resurrection.


Jana May 23, 2012 at 6:09 am

I don’t remember where I got this, but it is easy to remember:
Sunday – his spiritual walk
Monday – his moods and mental health
Tuesday – his time usage
Wednesday – his weakness(es) to be healed
Thursday – his thought life
Friday – his friendships
Saturday – his sexuality

(Lori: It comes from A Cool Tool ~ http://bit.ly/JycytD)


nikki schumacher May 24, 2012 at 5:37 am

My husband is expanding our business and it is very important to him. It is one of his biggest dreams to do well in business so that I can be a stay home mom soon. One of the daily reminders that helps me pray for him is every time he leaves to go to a business meeting and also whenever he is making an important phone call. I take time to pray for blessing and courage and victory. I am so blessed to have a hubby who desperately wants to provide for his family even in a down economy where most people (including me) would understand the wife having to work too and put the kids in daycare. He really doesn’t want to put our future kids in daycare (neither do I)! He just left for a business meeting as I read this post so I pray right now, for God to help him through that meeting. That he would be given the right words and that God would open the heart of the person he is interviewing to learn and understand.


Amy R May 24, 2012 at 5:38 am

I am new to this blog and have enjoyed it so far! For my husband, I pray for whatever he is going through at the time. Sometimes it is stress from his work, sometimes his relationships at work, sometimes it is patience with me (then I end up praying about my patience with him since that is usually the problem)and other things like that. I like many of the ideas in the posts already – especially the days of the week one. I should try that with my kids, too! Thanks for doing this to give us ideas.


Diana Tesch May 24, 2012 at 7:59 am

I pray that God can give us the words to encourage and lift each other up. I also pray that God will give us the desire to seek Him and know Him more that day. I also pray that the devil will not have any place in our marriage that day and that he won’t get in the way of our growing relationship.


Chrissy Espy May 24, 2012 at 10:07 am

My husband is a God-fearing man and the leader of our house; therefore I pray that he will always be a God-fearing leader, and that his thoughts and actions actions will always reflect Christ in everything he does. I pray that God will always lead him and direct him as He sees fit, and I pray that I will always lovingly follow and support him, and that my actions will reflect Christ. I pray that he will be the father that Christ wants him to be. I pray that God will protect him, guide him and Bless him. And show him how much he means to us!


Jeanne May 24, 2012 at 2:17 pm

I pray Ephesians 6 for my husband, verses 10 – 20 asking that he would put on the full armor of God daily. I feel these verses cover all of my husband’s being, from his head to his toes, his mind, his heart and his mouth. When I finish praying for him, then I pray them for myself! =)


Alisha May 24, 2012 at 4:55 pm

My husband isn’t saved, so the number one thing I always pay for is salvation for him. Number 2, that God would use me to help bring him to salvation.


Melody Gwyn May 25, 2012 at 5:14 am

I try to pray for him at his job because it is stressful. I pray a scripture from Psalm about him having favor with God and with man; specifically favor with those in authority over him and those under his authority.


Susan R. May 29, 2012 at 5:44 pm

I always begin with thanking God for such a wonderful godly man.


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