Build AND Guard

May 11, 2012

in the generous life

I just read Sheila’s post Don’t Forget How Much They Want Us to Fail and it reminded me of the importance of taking temptation seriously.  The post actually made me mad (not at Sheila, but rather at the folks who are trying to take Tebow down and a world system that wants to destroy anything good).

Yes, we need to have a plan to succeed (to build our marriages), but we also need to have a plan to guard our marriages (what things can take us down?) Be wise and consider both perspectives.

Boy, am I motivated to fight for marriages today!

What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.  Mark 10:9 ESV

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Sheila made me mad and then “J” (of Hot, Holy and Humorous) made me laugh ~ Check Out Those Breasts (ohmygosh watch the video)  


I’m guilty of this and learning to do better ~ I Could Do It Better (from Assume Love)



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Jason May 11, 2012 at 6:00 am

Amen Lori! Things that can destroy a marriage can sneak in from ANY direction, and at ANY time. We must be on guard at all times… absolutely nobody is immune to marital attacks. I am one who USED to believe he was, but thankfully God fixed us before the marriage was beyond repair.

Keep fighting for marriages, and know that WE stand with you!


Adam's Eve May 11, 2012 at 10:07 am

I’m with you! Fight for holy God-honoring marriages, Lori, and don’t give up!


Melissa Jones May 12, 2012 at 7:36 am

Please fight with me for mine. My husband and I have had our ups and downs over our six years of marriage (blessed with three kids in that time!). We both came from similar backgrounds spiritually. He’s been going through a recent crisis of faith due to a medical issue that God hasn’t miraculously removed over the years (ADD). He and I are both very ‘binary’ people, so when things are good, they’re great and when they’re bad, they’re very bad…but this time is different. Often when we’d fight over something, he’d talk about leaving, but I’d usually manage to talk him down. Once or twice before, he’s talked about not being sure if he loved me anymore. This time, not only is he not sure he loves me anymore, he’s not sure he ever did and has moved out of our bedroom onto our sofa bed. When I say that regardless of my feelings, I choose to love him, leaving isn’t an option for me, he’s always welcome in my bed, etc., he says that I’m “falling on my sword.” I made this commitment for life and thought he did too. This is the scariest, most shameful, most humbling experience I’ve ever had. I know I have contributed to this and could use the humbling, but please pray for me and my husband! I love him and I can’t imagine doing life with three preschoolers without him. I don’t want to think about how hard this will be for our kids. Pray for their protection through all of this and that I can trust that God is in control and has a plan for even this. I’m not too proud to ask for help when we need it and we need it now. Thanks!


The Generous Wife May 12, 2012 at 1:32 pm

@Melissa Prayers going out. I would encourage you to involve a third party. That might be a pastor, a counselor or a wise friend. Don’t face this alone. Gather wisdom and strength from others.


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