It really is true that guys can’t read minds.
Some are more intuitive than others, but in the real world guys need to hear specifically what you think or what you want.
This is especially true in the bedroom.
Guys have different plumbing and a different kind of sex drive, so they are really in the dark, unless we are willing to turn on a light.
So, when your husband does something you like, tell him. When he does something that is uncomfortable or painful, (gently) tell him. If there is something you’d like to try, invite him. If he doesn’t understand, repeat using different words and/or show him what you mean.
I know communicating about sex can be awkward, sometimes terribly so, but the only way to make it un-awkward is to practice and get better at it.
Challenge of the week: Pick something sexual and communicate about it … plainly. You don’t have to be terribly fancy about it. “Kiss me like that again.” “Can we try woman on top?” “Touch me here.” “Ummm. That’s good.” Just communicate your perspective or your wishes about something sexual. Give him more than a clue.
Let my beloved come to his garden, and eat its choicest fruits. Song of Songs 4:16b ESV
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