How Inconvenient!

April 13, 2012

in the generous life

My husband and I have been talking quite a bit about “being willing to inconvenience yourself” as an expression of love.

A couple of weeks back we were in a movie theater to see a fairly popular movie and seats were filling fast. A group of four came in and asked a lady to move over one seat so that they could fit in. She refused.

It rather surprised us. It was such a small thing, but as I sat there I began to realize that we all do it to some extent. We don’t want to be bothered. We don’t want to change our plans. We don’t want to have to spend any time or energy on others, however small. How inconvenient people are to our day, our plans, our wants, our needs!

To make matters worse, it wasn’t until later that Paul and I realized that we could have asked someone seated next to us if they would have been willing to move down and with a move of our own, we could have made room for this group.

So … Paul and I continue to talk. How do we get the “I’m willing to be inconvenienced” kind of generosity into our hearts and our heads? We talk about it, think about it and ask God to help us see the opportunities around us.  

My personal take is that you start with your spouse and move out from there. Where and how can I make time for my sweetie? If he asks for my help, can I do that with a smile and an “of course.” (I’m not talking total doormat here. I’m talking about taking on the attitude that “love serves” and love gives” even when it is inconvenient. My husband and others are very much worth it to me.)

… through love serve one another. Galatians 5:13b  ESV

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The value of friendliness works in marriage too!  Preach it, preach it, preach it! (from Ferguson Values)


This must be a good day for great preaching material! ~ Unforgiveness Keeps You Bound (from Marriage Works!)



{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Robyn Gibson April 13, 2012 at 9:24 am

Hey Lori, that was an awesome insight. Thank you!!


Pearl April 13, 2012 at 9:34 am

I’ve witnessed a family member be greatly inconvenienced by total strangers and yet not do the same for the family. I like your thought that you should start with your spouse first and work out from there.


Donna April 14, 2012 at 9:49 pm

I have learned most of what I know about generosity and kindness from watching others. I once saw a gentleman at church hand an open hymnal, turned to the song we were currently singing, to a couple who came into church late. I would NEVER have thought to do that. I may have shown them my hymnal so they could know what number to turn to, but going that extra step really stood out to me as genuine kindness and generosity.


Sheree April 16, 2012 at 5:49 pm

Such a good reminder that the importance of giving the best to my family and not just for others. Thanks!


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