Hon, It’s Like a Basketball Game

March 30, 2012

in the generous life

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I was reading a post from Battle for Your Marriage. Care For Your Wife – It Takes More than Food and Water. The reason the post was so powerful was that the author used a word picture (that anyone could identify with) to communicate a truth.

Such a wonderful idea! Let’s learn from it.

When you are struggling to communicate with your husband, try to create a word picture to explain your thoughts. Is your husband into basketball? Can you explain your thoughts using the game as a framework for his understanding? Does he love gardening or fixing cars or jogging? Think of the different parts of his life and see if you can come up with a word picture that he can identify with that will help you explain your thoughts and perspectives. 

A picture is worth a thousand words.  Author Unknown

Image credit © Jose Manuel Gelpi Diaz | Dreamstime.com


Sheila (of To Love, Honor and Vacuum) is now doing a weekly Vlog ~ Marriage Vlog: Help! I Can’s be Naked in Front of my Husband  This week’s Vlog is very thoughtful and encouraging.


A great “word picture for communicating” resource is The Language of Love (aff link) by Smalley & Trent



{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Darcy March 30, 2012 at 3:49 am

When we were first married I wanted a new fry pan because all I had was a small one. My husband said he didn’t see the need. The next day he was working in the garage and needed a tool and went and bought the tool so he could do the job. I had the bright idea to relate my fry pan to the new tool. Just like he needed certain tools to do certain jobs, the fry pan and other things I needed in the kitchen were my “tools” and if he wanted me to make him certain things, I needed those tools. It was like a light bulb clicked with him and he’s never turned down a request for me to have a new “tool” again!


Sheila Wray Gregoire March 30, 2012 at 10:02 am

Great idea, Lori! Sometimes we really don’t speak the same language.

Thanks for the shout out for my Marriage Vlogs, too. I have to figure out a way to film them better, but I’m trying, anyway.


The Generous Wife March 30, 2012 at 11:01 am

@Darcy – Wonderful illustration. It always amazes me how a simple illustration can help us see another’s viewpoint.


The Generous Wife March 30, 2012 at 11:02 am

@Sheila – Bless you for trying a new medium. I think they are great, very personable, which is something you want when you are talking about private issues. The Vlogs feel safe and encouraging.


Bekah April 8, 2012 at 3:16 am

Enjoyed his blog post until the end where he says to “have the guts to set her free…” not exactly biblical advice, unless I misunderstood what he meant.


The Generous Wife April 8, 2012 at 2:21 pm

@Bekah I think it was just a way of challenging guys to man up. Perhaps not the best choice of words.


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