Submission is a choice.
You recognize an authority. They ask you to do (or not do) something. Now … you have a choice. Do you do as they ask (submit to their authority) or do you do something else?
Submit: to give over or yield to the power or authority of another
When I go shopping, I park my car between the painted parking lines. If I have 10 or less items I use the express checkout. If I have more I checkout through a regular lane. When I get my groceries in the car, I put my cart in the cart thingie (oh, what do you call it? corral?). The point is, I recognize that the people who own the grocery store have rules for interacting with their store. I can respect their authority and submit to what they want or I can park across several lines and hog several parking spots, push 22 items through the express lane and then leave my cart loose in the parting lot where it can damage someone’s car. (Even with this example you can see the benefit and blessing that comes with respect/submission to an authority.)
When someone “demands” that you “submit” to them and “makes” you to do something, that is not submission. That is coercion, force, often abuse. Submission, by definition, is something you choose to do. You give over. You yield.
Submission is a thinking choice. You do not have to blindly follow the wishes of any and every person who tells you to do something.
I have a friend who has a favorite saying, “let’s not be stupid about this.” I think that applies here. Just because someone asks something of you, it does not automatically make them an authority in your life (more about who has authority later). Yes, we want to be gracious and caring to those around us, but it’s a good plan to identify who really has authority, and under what conditions. Practice saying “yes” and “no” in a gracious manner. Apply appropriately.
More tomorrow …
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Be generous! Lori <><
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day!