Delight in Your Eyes

February 9, 2012

in the generous life

My husband and I were eating in a restaurant last night.  At one point, I looked up to see an older man with a young child in his arms.  There was such delight on his face.  I said to Paul, “now there’s a grandpa.”  It was so sweet.

When you look at your husband, does he see delight on your face?

For some of you, yes.  For others of you, this is a painful question.  This is actually one of my red flag questions.  When I start looking at my husband without delight, something’s wrong and I need to evaluate and make changes.

If you’re struggling to delight in your husband, remember those times in the past where you did and perhaps look at him through the eyes of memory.  What can you do to rebuild what you once had?  What did you do together that was so enjoyable?  Ask God to show you how to delight in your husband.  

Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.  Song of Songs 2:3 NIV

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This one made me laugh (so been there, done that) ~ Patience Required (from MarriageWorks!

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Need a little help with Valentine’s Day?  Free printable ~ Ten Things I Love About You (from Balancing Beauty with Bedlam

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Be generous! Lori <><
5 days until Valentine’s Day!

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Gretchen from Houston February 9, 2012 at 4:29 am

When I read this I remembered a year ago when my husband and I were really struggling and I definitely wasn’t delightful when I looked in his eyes. I felt helpless. I was scared to ask for help bc it wasn’t supposed to be like this. The freedom came for me when I finally asked our pastor for help. My husband didn’t really think we needed help but I felt like I wouldn’t make it another day. After one counseling session, I immediately felt relief and my husband could hear what I was saying bc there was a man translating how I was feeling in his language. ;) I always encourage women who feel hopeless to go talk to someone with or without their husband. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help. It might be the very thing that saves your marriage. It did mine.

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The Generous Wife February 9, 2012 at 11:23 am

Thanks, Gretchen, for the encouragement. Gals need to know it’s OK to ask for help.

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