Last Sunday this scripture jumped out at me.
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:9 NIV
1.We need to act out of who we are, not in response to others behavior. I’m really big on choosing to be generous and letting that rule my day. We do what we do because of who God is growing us up to be, not because someone is nice or mean to us.
2. This scripture applies to all relationships, including marriage.
3. There is always a blessing attached to doing things God’s way.
So where do we go from here?
When your husband wakes up on the wrong side of the bed, greet him with kind, soft words. You are returning “blessing” for “cursing” and you may just be what he needs to turn his day around. You will also know that you acted God’s way and there’s a blessing attached to that. Watch for it!
What about boundaries? My personal take is that we need to be respectful and kindly talk about what we want and need. If your husband is rude morning after morning, make it a matter of prayer and respectfully talk to him about it. Is there something you can do to help? Are there concerns you can pray for? Help him understand that his behavior is hurtful and that you need for him to look at and address the problem. The key here is that you are not “returning evil for evil” or “reviling for reviling.” You are respectfully addressing a real problem in your relationship.
What about abuse? Again. Be respectful and kind HOWEVER always talk from a place of safety. Yes, that may mean moving to a domestic violence shelter or the home of friend. We’re talking about the absence of evil and reviling, not the absence of common sense.
You get to choose how you will talk and act. Choose blessing and generosity.
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