From time to time I get an email from a gal who is a bit put out about the strong focus on blessing your husband, seemingly at the expense of yourself.
Let me say, that I totally understand.
Being generous is counter intuitive to getting what you want in life. In the scope of life, the laundry multiplying behind your back, errands to run, the dishes hollering to be done, the kids … just hollering, it’s tough to think of giving of your time and energy.
Let me share a few perspectives.
God calls us to a life of generosity. He wants us to look like Him. I respect His wisdom. If He says generosity is a good thing, I believe Him.
What you give you tend to get back. Being generous is like riding a fantastic wave with a wonderful backwash of generous returns. A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed. Prov 11:25 NIV
Being generous doesn’t have to take a lot of work. Kiss your sweetie 10 seconds instead of 2. Pray for your husband while you fold his clothes. Pick up some of his favorite cookies when you are grocery shopping. Some of the most generous things you can do just take a moment.
For the most part, there is time to bless others and still have your needs met. It is not an either/or situation. You can watch the movie your husband wants to watch and another time watch your choice. You can fix his favorite meal on Tuesday and fix your favorite meal on Friday. You can follow your dreams and pursue adventure. Yes, it will likely take a bit of planning and creative effort, but you don’t have to become a non-person to be a generous person. (In fact I would say that being a non-person is a slam against who God designed you to be. Embrace life and be best you that you can be with the people that you love.)
Ride that wave!
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This is the first day of February. If you have an anniversary this month, please leave your first names, anniversary date, how long you’ve been married and then tell us something you absolutely love about your husband as a comment to this post. Gals, let’s buddy up with these February women and pray for their marriages. (January anniversaries)
Be sure to check out Sheils’a 29 Days to Great Sex ~ lots of great blogging as we wait for the publish date of her new book.
Be generous! Lori <><
13 days until Valentine’s Day!