Be Yourself

November 18, 2011

in the generous life

© Monkey Business Images | Dreamstime.comI’ve always thought that the most enjoyable and interesting people are those that are comfortable in their own skin.  I love watching my husband just move, sit, and talk when he is relaxed and being himself (I’ll add sexy to his list of qualities).  He’s my hero in this (he seemed to beat the “what will others think” bug early in life and I aspire to squash that bug too).

Really, how much time, energy and sanity do we spend pleasing other people and trying to live up to their standards?  Certainly we need to be respectful and kind to folks and that means being aware of reasonable expectations. And, yes, we want to bless and please those around us, … but not at the cost of losing ourselves, not at the cost of trading God’s plans and purposes for our life to gain approval from others.

In approaching the holidays, this can become a critical issue.  You deal with so many people with so many expectations (some reasonable, some not).  May I suggest a time of prayer and discussion with your sweetie?  Talk about who you are and what you need.  Discuss family values and what you are willing to do and not. Learn to love yourself and who God designed you to be.  Practice saying “yes” and “no.”  Relax more. Smile.  Be yourself and don’t apologize for it.

When a wife surrenders her self to her husband she is not giving up her self, but rather giving of herself to him; her real self; her full self.  Scott (from Does Surrender Mean Losing Yourself?)

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Some posts about expectations by The Generous HusbandIt’s Not Good Enough, So Why Bother? and Are Your Standards Too High for Her?


Get a Gratitude Rock!  Practicing the Attitude of Gratitude – a lovely, practical idea from Michael Hyatt.


5 Ways to Create an Upbeat Atmosphere in Your Home this Winter – from My Super-Charged Life.


Be generous! Lori <><
37 days ’til Christmas!

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