Where’s My Wallet?

October 24, 2011

in the generous life

© Andi Berger | Dreamstime.comMy husband forgot his notebook and wallet yesterday morning.  He called and asked me to gather them up and bring them with me to church (he leaves early to help with set up,  I follow later).

This sort of thing used to bother me … a lot.  I’m not sure when it stopped being a bother (though I’m glad it has).  I used to be upset that he was forgetful (it was inconvenient) or that he was using me as an errand boy (he wasn’t appreciating me).

Now it’s just a part of life.  My husband is sometimes forgetful (as am I, we are both human) and we ask for help and consideration from each other (we are a team).  It’s really nice.  I know I can count on him and he can count on me.  We generally serve each other with a minimum of fuss.

I encourage y’all to examine your attitudes when it comes to serving your sweetie.  Yes, he is human and his needs and wishes will not always be convenient (and sometimes they’ll be downright inconvenient, like you’ve-got-to-be-kidding-me inconvenient).  Can you see your husband as a person of value, even when he is less than perfect?  Can you ask God for help in learning attitudes of kindness, generosity and a willingness to serve?  It’s amazing what that kind of service will sow into your marriage relationship.

Image credit © Andi Berger | Dreamstime.com


I’m always looking for good recipes.  Here’s a great one from Happy Home Fairy – Yummy Pumpkin Cookies.  It’s incredibly easy and very, very tasty.  A great fall treat.


Be generous! Lori <><

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Kate @One Flesh Marriage October 24, 2011 at 4:21 am

Hi Lori! This kind of thing used to bothee me as well! I too have grown to see that I am Brad’s helper and I want to serve him. Now when I see the things like clothes he has left in a pile, I think to myself, “well I can either huff and puff and leave that pile right where he left it!” or I can bless him and help him by putting it where it needs to be. The old attutude used to snowball and was never a good thing. Now I help Brad and move on. Much better placse to be for both of us. I enjoy doing things for him and knowing that he can call on me when he needs me. Makes me feel special. I know that he can and will call on me for things he won’t call on anyone else for. That is a beautiful side of marriage. As always, thanks for sharing! :)


joan jones October 24, 2011 at 7:05 am

my hubby does the same thing..he goes early to set up power point and for sunday school but I come later with our 16yod who is disabled, that’s why i can’t go to sunday school…he leaves things a lot and yesterday he called, I said, what did you forget this time? LOL I don’t mind, I think it’s cute and glad I can help him


Lori Ferguson October 24, 2011 at 11:36 am

Oh my – you’ve just written a post about ME!

I’m the one who always leaves stuff behind. From the time we were dating, Rob would always come behind me making sure I had my purse and keys. Eventually even my kids would check to be sure I had my stuff. Fortunately (for me) my hubby and kids are kind, and practice the point of your post.

Kindness + Willingness to Serve = A Postive Impact


Colorado Girl October 26, 2011 at 7:29 pm

My hubby locks his keys in his car, at least 3 times per year. I have to drive to wherever he his to let him back in. I admit to sometimes getting upset, since I was usually doing something at the time. Well….I locked my keys in my car last night. He had to drive 15 minutes out of his way to let me in. In the snow. Yay for my hubby! I will never get upset again!


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