Awhile back when my husband and I were traveling, we overheard an argument in a restaurant between husband and wife. When the husband got up and left, the wife continued to rail about her husband … to their kid! It was so sad and you have to know that they sowed seeds of destruction that day in their marriage and in their child’s life (and his future marriage and parenting).
Let’s learn something from this. Yes, it’s OK to be upset with your spouse and disagree with them, but let’s keep it private and not rail about it in front of friends or family. Learn good communication skills and practice them with your husband when you both have the time and energy to deal with your differences. (I just read a preview copy of Cue Cards for Life: Gentle Reminders for Better Relationships (aff link) by Christina Steinorth (it can be pre-ordered). It’s a wonderful collection of helpful guidelines for communication in marriage, as a parent, and more. I highly recommend it (and will remind everyone again when the book is released).)
The aim of argument, or of discussion, should not be victory, but progress. Joseph Joubert
Here is the first of two posts on Wants vs. Needs by The Generous Husband. I love the challenge to see “real” needs and the heart of generosity that values both needs and wants.
Be generous! Lori <><