What bugs your husband? Cluttered bathroom sink? Being late to church? Schedule mix-ups? Whatever it is, sit down and think through the issue looking for the parts of the problem, then brainstorm solutions (some problems are actually a bunch of little problems, break them down to deal with them). Try one solution for a week or so and then reevaluate. Modify or change out your solution until you find something that works well. Then move on to the next problem.
The important thing is to listen to your husband’s frustrations, look for practical solutions and be willing to work consistently to solve the problem. (Yes, I know you have similar frustrations. After you have worked through a couple of his, then suggest working through one of yours. Previous successes can spur you on to more. It’s wonderful to see friction reduced in your household because of practical changes.)
I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy. Tony Robbins
Be generous! Lori <><