Listen Up!

August 30, 2011

in the generous life

© Georgii Dolgykh | Dreamstime.comIt used to drive me nuts when my kids would zone out when I was talking to them.  They generally didn’t stop what they were doing, eyes elsewhere, they might grunt, etc.  I knew they hadn’t heard me.

OK, I’m really guilty of doing this to my husband.  I nod and say, “uh-huh,” and continue what I’m doing.  Ten minutes later I can’t tell you what he said (actually about 20 seconds later I couldn’t).  Don’t do as I do, do as I say (and I’ll work on it also).

Let’s REALLY listen to our husbands when they are speaking.  We need to hear what they say to live with them peaceably and just to function together as a couple.  I’m thinking it’s a habit that can be learned – set down [whatever], look at husband, open ears, repeat his words (if necessary), respond intelligently.  It’s worth a try.

I think the one lesson I have learned is that there is no substitute for paying attention.  Diane Sawyer

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Be generous!  Lori <><

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Amy August 30, 2011 at 3:53 am

I am guilty of the same thing. My husband is a talker, I am not. However, sometimes I zone out on him too. I have to be purposeful in my listening. My kids too. When I tell them to do something, they’ll automatically say, “I will” without missing a beat (still doing whatever they’re doing). When that happens, I know they aren’t listening, and I say, “I don’t want to hear ‘I will’, I want to see you doing it.”

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Natalie August 30, 2011 at 7:01 am

This is such a good reminder! I am guilty of this as well. This is very important to physically turn, look & listen, not just listen in the background. Or if u can’t really listen right then, to remember to ask if your husband can wait a few minutes so you can focus on what he is saying & give him all of your attention. Rather than trying to do several things at once & missing what he is saying. Let’s him know you are interested.

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Elizabeth August 30, 2011 at 7:20 am

this drives my husband nuts.. He does talk a lot and it drives me crazy do I ignore him =)

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J (Hot, Holy & Humorous) August 31, 2011 at 6:27 pm

Oh my goodness! I’m SO guilty of this when I’m in a “zone” on my writing. Great reminder to put your loved ones first. Thanks!

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