Quick! Hide Mr. Bunny!

August 13, 2011

in the generous life

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Few things put a damper on sex like the uncertainty of being interrupted or a feeling of lack of privacy.  Some things can’t be helped.  Your infant wakes up and starts hollering (the kind that says this is only going to get louder) or you hear a crash in the other room.   Well, those are just going to be interruptions.

However, there are things you can do to plan ahead to reduce some of the usual distractions and potential interruptions. 

Make sure any children are safe (asleep, corralled and entertained, etc.). 

Find something that creates “cover noise” (like music or white sound) so children are not as likely to knock wondering what that noise is about and to keep down the distraction for you as well.  Carpet, bedding and drapes absorb sound. If you have hardwood floors, consider an area rug or two.

Do get a bedroom door lock and get a lock box for lubricant, toys or books that you don’t want your kiddos to find (I have a friend who tells an hysterical story about her child finding “Mr. Bunny” a favorite bedroom toy, details withheld to protect the innocent embarrassed). 

I think, in general, it’s healthy to teach your kids about personal space.  They have bedrooms with a certain amount of privacy and it makes sense that Mom and Dad need a bit of privacy in their bedroom too.  Teach them to knock and use locks (as above).

Think practically for ideas to meet your privacy needs.

Human beings are not meant to lose their anonymity and privacy.   Sarah Chalke

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LINKS TO BLOG POSTS THAT STOOD OUT TO ME THIS LAST WEEK:

The Confident Mom: How Do You Model Conflict? – nice guest post from Joleen Watson, MS, NCC.
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Couple Things: Transference and Vacation Like This – thoughtfulness and reconnecting (good to see Rowan & Mara blogging again).
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A Grown Up Marriage and Intimacy in Marriage swapped posts this week: Wives Who Are Sexually Refused and Sexual Intimacy Assumptions Can Wreck Havoc in Your Marriage
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Hot, Holy & Humorous: Facts and Figures – a body image wake up call.
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Journey to Surrender: The Thoughts in My Head – lovely window into the process of healing after a fight.
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To Love, Honor & Vacuum: Great Expectations – give your sweetie room to grow and change.
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Marriage Life: I Need Help and I Don’t Have to Let My Emotions Control My Actions – thoughts about interdependence and taking control of yourself.
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Marriage Works: Consider Your Marriage from 38,000 Feet and Be the Catalyst in Your Marriage – two “make you think” posts.
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One Flesh Marriage: I Can’t Remember the Last Time My Husband Touched Me! – helpful suggestions for a difficult problem.
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The Romantic Vineyard: The Jacket Fit Perfectly, Like a Hug – sweet post about the important things in life. (3 kleenex warning)
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Stupendous Marriage: The Reason Behind Date Night? – act in loving ways and watch the feelings follow.
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Winning at Romance: How to Stay Married for Fifty-Six Consecutive Years – lovely advice from oldy-weds.

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Be generous! Lori <><

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Mel August 13, 2011 at 6:31 am

I laughed out loud at “Your infant wakes up and starts hollering (the kind that says this is only going to get louder)” since I have an 11 month old and my husband and I have recently learned to “finish up” if the cry doesn’t seem too intense. I used to freak out and (almost comically) jump out of bed at the sound of even a slight stir, but we’ve realized that as long as he’s safe (in his playpen usually) and just crying to get our attention then it’s easier to “finish now” than it would be to “try again later”.

Thanks for this post. I recently found this blog and love it already!

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Julie Sibert August 14, 2011 at 8:01 pm

Great post Lori! Whenever I speak on sexual intimacy, I mention these same tips as well! I’m always amazed that more people don’t have locks on their door, especially when “privacy” is usually a pre-requisite for a wife to really enjoy sex with her husband.

I think if couples do what needs to be done to protect their privacy during lovemaking, then they can become more comfortable and less inhibited. (I talk about this in a recent post: http://intimacyinmarriage.com/2011/06/30/oh-god-and-other-things-we-say-during-sex/

Wonderful post! I think the “Mr. Bunny” story is hilarious.

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J (Hot, Holy & Humorous) August 15, 2011 at 9:00 am

Great thoughts, Lori! I agree with your tips. As the kids get older, it’s also perfectly reasonable to simply tell them that you and dad are going to have some alone time and they should not interrupt unless someone is vomiting, bleeding profusely, unconscious, or has an appendage pointing in the wrong direction. ;)

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The Generous Wife August 15, 2011 at 4:46 pm

Or fire. Need to deal with fire.

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J (Hot, Holy & Humorous) August 15, 2011 at 9:02 am

Oh, and definitely lock the door! Or you might end up with my experience: http://hotholyhumorous.blogspot.com/2011/04/lock-door-for-heavens-sake.html

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