Keeping Track of How Much

July 23, 2011

in the generous life

How are you and your husband doing over sexual frequency?  I ask because busyness and the stress in life often causes a slow down.  You’re tired.  It’s late.  You can make love tomorrow.  Life does happen and there are those days, but if you find yourself frequently making excuses and putting off sex, then consider that a red flag that you need to simplify your life a bit and become more intentional about sex. Your marriage needs the intimacy that sex brings and good sex tends to happen most when there is regular sex.

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How much is enough?  Look at the fruit (no, I’m not talking about kids).  How intimate is your overall relationship?  How tender do you and your husband feel toward each other?  Do you smile at each other during dinner?  As a suggestion, you might try engaging in sex a bit more than you usually do to see if it makes a difference.  If it does, then you have learned something and you can make sex a bigger priority in your life.

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LINKS TO BLOG POSTS THAT STOOD OUT TO ME THIS LAST WEEK:

Black and Married With Kids: Who Are Your Marriage Mentors? – If you’re looking for a mature married couple to learn from, here’s a great list of mentor qualifications.
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Encourage Your Spouse: Preparing to Decide – interesting article using the concept of Edward DeBono’s Six Thinking Hats.
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A Grown Up Marriage: What Did You Expect? and Another Post About Sex, Kinda …” – two tough “grow up” articles.
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Happy Home Fairy: FREE Printable Summer Love Note for the Happy Hubby – another creative idea and it’s free!
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Hot, Holy & Humorous: How Do You Measure Up to the Virtuous Woman? – nice, balanced article on that Proverbs 31 gal.
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(in)courage: Giving BIG on  Little Budget – an amazing article on giving and generosity!
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Intimacy in Marriage: How Does Your Husband Really Feel About Your Sex Life? Ask Him. – Gutsy article.
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Journey to Surrender: Be a Lifelong Student – helpful thoughts and ideas about “studying him,” nice links.
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Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage: The Church’s Answer to Immorality Part 2 – I know young marriage is a bit controversial, but I happen to agree with him here. Science (the study of God’s creation) agrees too.
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To Love, Honor and Vaccuum: What Your Husband Wishes You Knew – a beautiful guest post about the heart of your husband.
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Marriage Life: Divorce is Not an Option – balanced post about divorce concepts.
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Marriage Works: Is Your Mate Unemployed? Be Sensitive. and Is Your Marriage a Team or a Tyranny? – two wise cautions.
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One Flesh Marriage: Turn or Burn to Sexual Confidence and Make Room for Sexual Confidence – share and discuss these posts with your husband.
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The Romantic Vineyard: Perfect Balance – a lovely story about a husband knowing and blessing his wife.
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Simple Marriage: The Importance of Dreaming Together – dreams are important to marriage.
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Stupendous Marriage: Marriage in the Bible > Adam and Eve – the start of a new series looking at different marriages in the Bible.

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Be generous! Lori <><

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Lynn July 23, 2011 at 8:13 am

Lori,

Great info and some good links. Sharing with my readers. Have a great weekend. Hugs. Lynn

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jayme - No Regrets Living July 23, 2011 at 8:57 am

We’ve been married for almost a year (in about a week!) and since Day One of our marriage, I’ve kept a spreadsheet of the days and times we have sex. Not so it can become some legalistic tool. (“We averaged higher last month than this month, dear!”) But because I delight in it. I want to take the frequency of sex seriously and I can use the spreadsheet as a way of tracking it. It’s kind of fun to see trends too!

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Ron Doe July 25, 2014 at 12:05 pm

My hats off to you for doing so, shows you are concerned about what your man’s needs are. I wished my wife was and we have been married laess than 7 months. Many nights I have fallen asleep thinking I am not desireable to her.

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Anne Reese July 25, 2011 at 10:07 am

I do a mental note on how often my husband and I have sex but keeping a spreadsheet of it is really a good way of tracking it. Hmmm…

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