I get questions like, “How can I get my husband to go to church with me?” or “How do I build up my husband spiritually?” Hmmm. This and other “how to change my husband” questions are real tricky. You see, your husband is another person and you can’t make another person change, grow up, be who you want them to be, etc. They get to choose who they are and what they will do.
That said, there is influence in relationship, and the best way to influence someone is to model what you think is important and good. So, if you want your husband to grow spiritually, do some growing up yourself and find ways to benefit him with the changes. (Why would he want to be more spiritual if he doesn’t like what being spiritual does to you?) Are you being more patient and kind? Are you facing and dealing with your jealousy? Have you burned your list of what he’s done wrong? (all goodies from 1 Corinthians 13) Are you taking care of his sexual needs? (back in chapter 7)
Are you regularly praying (not just for how you want him to change, but for needs that he expresses) and spending time in the Word? Are your friends marriage friendly? Do you know God’s plan and purpose for your life? What are your gifts and callings? Focus on you. What does God want from you? How can you follow Him better and let Him grow you up?
You must be the change you wish to see in the world (your marriage). Mohandas Gandhi (parenthesis mine)
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Be generous! Lori <><