Home Life Recorded

June 30, 2011

in the generous life

My husband (The Generous Husband) has been writing some hard hitting posts lately.  His yesterday’s post was so on the mark that I want to pass it on to y’all.  Make the gender switch and apply as needed.

If your friends saw how you act at home, what would they think?

If the folks at church or your job saw how you treat your wife and kids when no one is around, would they be surprised, or shocked, or upset? Every family has an inner circle in which they say and do things they would never say or do in front of others. To some extent this is good and even necessary, but it can also be used to hide bad behaviour. This is especially true in families that are dysfunctional due to addiction or abuse, but a milder form occurs in some families that are not dysfunctional.

Yes, this is similar to the post I made yesterday; mostly it’s another way to think about it and thus to uncover ways in which you are not as grown up as you should be. Imagine for a moment that everything you did at home over the last week was recorded. Eliminate the naked and intimate things, and how much of what was left would you not want anyone to see? Those are the areas that need work.

I bolded the last part because that is the helpful part.  It helps you narrow down to the stuff that you can work on.

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Barb M. June 30, 2011 at 5:25 am

I definitely need work on that. But I’m trying just to be better in front of my kids, who are always around, because they’ve told me, straight out, how I am sometimes; LOL. Anyway, this post also hit a nerve about my past; my previous marriage was exactly that; very dysfunctional, and my ex-h was kind and generous and helpful to everyone outside of the marriage, and even was sort of nice to me and the kids outside of the house, but the moment we came home, the very moment we stepped into the door, he was a different person!! He was a dictator, vindictive, agressive in passive and active ways, and just plain abusive verbally and emotionally and spiritually. I still do not understand it, but I took my children and left, with a huge battle, I might add. I have a wonderful marriage (5 years now!) and my young daughter still has to go back to her dad’s for 3 days a week. (prayer, please, for her) Because of this and my PTSD from that marriage and more, I do act out towards my husband. He is a Godsend because he deals with me with kindness, understanding and love. I am so thankful for him!!

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April A June 30, 2011 at 6:57 am

One thing to keep in mind – God sees us all the time, no matter where we are. So it’s not a matter of trying to impress those around us that should be important, but rather trying to act how God would want us to act.

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