Radical Giving

June 12, 2011

in the generous life

A few weeks back my husband and I traveled to Southern California to support and help our friends at With This Ring with their yearly banquet.  We really respect what Ali (and her husband Ken) and others have been doing through this ministry of radical giving.  When you visit the site, please do watch the video (lower right corner – 5 kleenex warning!).

We donate to several ministries, as well as to the church gatherings that we attend (local community church and house church gatherings) and we give of our time and talent where we see the need.  We’re looking forward to supporting a new church plant to Hawaii as our friends study, pray and move toward their dreams – Big Island Faith Communities.

Generosity is a way of life.  It is a change in heart.

I encourage y’all to look for ways to give wherever you are.  If you don’t have extra dollars in the budget, find a way to support the local youth center or volunteer to teach adults to read at the local library.  There are so many ways to give.  Invite your husband, family and friends to join you.  Spread the generous virus around a bit.

But since you excel in everything—in faith, in speech, in knowledge, in complete earnestness and in the love we have kindled in you — see that you also excel in this grace of giving.   2 Corinthians 8:7  NIV

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Virginia June 12, 2011 at 10:31 pm

Hi Lori!
I love receiving your tips every day! It is such an encouragement to me to have this community of Christian wives seeking to sacrificially love their husbands. Thank you!

As you’ve written of With This Ring in the past, it’s never quite sat right with me and I told myself that if you wrote of it again I’d be sure to express my feelings to you. My thoughts are these:First, I feel that the wedding ring should be sacred. Sure, it’s only a symbol, but it’s one with great meaning and significance. It is spoken about at the wedding ceremony as a symbol of undying, unbroken love, and as a reminder to both partners, for years to come, of the day they promised themselves to each other and slid the rings on each others’ fingers. I understand that the rings are not vital to a marriage and that many couples have chosen different tokens to symbolize their commitment.But for women who wear a wedding ring, it is a symbol of her love for her husband and his for her. I don’t think it’s proper to be appealing to a woman to give away the token she and her husband have selected to represent their love and commitment to each other, however noble the cause!
Definitely, let the need be known! Definitely ask couples to prayerfully consider giving together to reach a solution. If God leads couples to agree together to sell their more costly possessions and use the proceeds to support the cause – terrific! But to prey on women’s pity and sympathy to give up such a sacred token just sits very poorly with me.
Secondly, I recognize that the ministry is asking couples to make this decision together, but we already know the difficulty wives have with submission when their selfish, carnal husbands lag behind in their heart for ministry. I wonder how many marriages are actually harmed when a wife watches this tear-jerking plea for her help, feels moved to respond, and brings the issue before her husband. If he is not similarly moved, he must tell his wife that he’d rather her continue to wear her ring (which she has already dismissed as expendable) than save countless lives! What a scumbag he would feel like! So he may be shamed into agreeing. Is that really where we’re wanting to put husbands?
Even using those words in the ministry’s name seems to be treading on sacred ground. At one time, a woman used “with this ring” to make a forever vow to her husband, now she’s found something more important to do “with this ring”. Do you see what I’m saying? Aren’t promises made on the wedding day amended enough as time goes on, without us adding this new “noble” way of doing it?
I know it seems like I’m making a mountain of a molehill, picking a fight, etc. I almost don’t even want to submit my comment. But with this check in my spirit, I have to say something. I admire all the ways the ministry has made it possible to help without the giving of a wedding ring. I hope they’ve already considered and prayed over all these concerns and still felt led to ask for help in this way. I only write these things in case this point of view has not yet been considered.


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