Praying Together

May 20, 2011

in the generous life

Praying together with your husband – this is usually a tough one. One or both of you feel uncomfortable and it’s hard to find the time. I have a few suggestions.

1) Don’t feel like you have to pray out loud.  Just hug each other and pray.  If you want to toss out a topic, that’s fine too.

2) Pray short – just a sentence or two about each subject.  It’s not that hard to say what’s on your mind when you can state it simply.

3) If one of you is comfortable praying out loud and the other not, that’s fine.  Each pray in your own way.

4) If you’re stuck for prayer material, why not get a book of prayers and personalize them?

5) As to finding time, just grab each other for a moment when something comes up. “Hon, will you pray a moment with me about Johnny.  He’s got an important test this morning.”  I think bedtime is great because you are already snuggled up together and it’s not hard to talk to the Lord for a bit.  Personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with falling asleep during prayer. (I always wonder if we look sweet to the Lord when we are sleeping in the same our sleeping children look sweet to us.)

6) Read a book about prayer together (read privately or take turns reading to each other) and talk about how you can practically do what you read.

7) If you’re married to an unbeliever, you might ask they are comfortable just holding you while you pray.  If they’re not comfortable, then respect that.  Perhaps get a prayer partner and make your spouse an ongoing prayer issue.

Be generous!  Lori <><

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Louise May 20, 2011 at 1:49 am

Wow…this sounds like one of the most intimate moments to share with your spouse and before reading this I hadn’t looked at it quite like this~ Praying together stregthens the union and Its so beautiful in the eyes of our creator~ Really Great Read!!!


April A May 20, 2011 at 6:25 am

My husband and I believe in the power of prayer. And we pray together before every meal. If we’re in our home, we hug each other while we pray and it’s a very intimate, private experience. If we’re out in public, we hold hands and pray. Prayer was meant to bring us closer to God, but I do believe it works to bring us closer to the ones we’re praying with as well.


Laurie May 24, 2011 at 6:26 pm

My husband and I began praying together just this February. It was part of our “Valentine’s Recommitment” to our marriage. We’ve been married over thirty years and have been encouraged and challenged on praying together more times than we can count. Finally, we surrendered! God has been absolutely amazing in transforming our marriage from one of complacency to one that honors Him. I sure wish we had started praying together from the beginning!


Theresa August 9, 2012 at 9:56 am

We have been married 25 years & have prayed together on & off, but recently we started praying together before we go to sleep. We have six children so we divide up the days of the week starting with us & our marriage on Sunday & praying for each child (along with spouses & grandchild) in age order through the rest of the days of the week. Sometimes we switch kids if one of them has something important going on during a specific day. Like others, I wish we had started this sooner.


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