Keep it Simmering

May 18, 2011

in the generous life

If you wait until later in the evening to consider sex, it’s fairly likely that you won’t feel like it.  You’re busy all day with responsibilities and by the end of the day it’s hard to flip the switch and “be sexy.”  Instead, try doing little things off and on during the day to remind yourself that you are sexual and give yourself a chance at enjoying sex later with your husband.  Call, email or text you husband with a sexy comment (do be careful with this if he is at work, perhaps come up with some code words).  Take a couple of moments during the day to baby yourself and enjoy something sensual.  Rub on some of your favorite body lotion or sit and enjoy a cup of tea.  Make a point of remembering the last time you had and enjoyed sex (give yourself permission to be sexual) or think about the things you love about your husband.

My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts. My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi. Song of Songs 1:13-14  NIV

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Kat May 18, 2011 at 1:38 am

Thank you for this. My husband just added a 2nd full time job and we’re both having a rough time adjusting to his schedule changes. Intimacy has fallen off a cliff and we’re ‘lucky’ to get in about once every 10 days which is not enough for either of us … we’re just both exhausted. I appreciate the post and it’s a great reminder to raise it up on the priority list.


Shayna May 18, 2011 at 5:32 am

Thanks for the tip Lori! I feel like the last time I really enjoyed sex was when I was feeling really confident in myself and how I looked. Problem is, a lot of times I don’t feel this way. The concept of giving myself permission to be sexual is new for me…I don’t feel like I’ve ever truly done that, which I truly believe has hindered our sexual relationship. Anyone else have issues like this? Any suggestions?


Louise May 19, 2011 at 12:03 pm

Great Ideas… Thank You for sharing them… Im sure when I do marry, my husband will appreciate such gestures from me


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