Please Accept My Values

May 5, 2011

in the generous life

Another subject that came up in discussion recently was conflict over values.  Certain values are important to one person and they hope that their spouse will agree with and adopt their values.  When values are similar it’s easier to get along, but when values are different, it takes a bit more work to develop a plan of action where both spouses feel respected and heard.

Some examples of value conflict:

One person values activity and productivity.  The other values quiet times of connecting in relationship.
One person values order and beauty.  The other values messy adventurous creativity.
One person values careful planning and timeliness.  The other values spontaneous adventure and risk.

Well you get the idea.  Each is saying to the other, “I value [whatever]. Will you please adopt my values and act accordingly.”  Being aware of those values can help you bless your spouse and live with them with a little less friction.

When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.  John Gray

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Louise May 5, 2011 at 1:40 am

I see now how values are important, I didn’t know until now,,, I’m so used to having to adjust and just get with the program. Reading this post is truly a blessing and will be of great benefit in the long run.


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