Guard Your Marriage

April 2, 2011

in the generous life

Thought I’d take a moment and challenge y’all to keep your marriage relationship guarded when it comes to relationships with other men.  It is possible to get emotionally connected with someone else and, before you know it, you’re feeling more warm and fuzzy about that person than you are your own husband.  Don’t let something like this sneak up on you.  Set up safeguards.  Here are a few suggestions:

Be more transparent with your husband than anyone else.  He should know more about you than anyone else does and there shouldn’t be secrets that he doesn’t know that others do (gifts and fun surprises are the exception, of course).

Be careful when you find that you are spending more time with a man that is not your husband.  If you can change that dynamic, do.  If you can’t (for example a co-worker), do what you can to keep your relationship fairly professional (don’t spend hours talking about personal matters) and never, never, never bad mouth your husband to him.

If you think you are becoming inappropriately interested in someone, take action.  Tell your spouse.  Change what you do and where you go so that you reduce (or remove) contact with this man.  Your marriage is worth whatever you need to do to guard it.

Keep your marriage relationship healthy.  If you are happy at home, you are less likely to be tempted elsewhere.  Invest in your marriage in every way that you can think of.  Be friends.  Be lovers.

In my parents I saw a model where they were really always communicating, doing things together. They were really kind of a team. I wanted some of that magic myself.  Bill Gates

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Tina M. Corbett April 2, 2011 at 12:38 pm

I enjoyed reading the comments about getting to close to another man once you are married. Will be posting some of the information 2 my facebook page for my married friends 2 see. Keep the GREAT pointers coming for people that need help stayin in a long and loving marriage.

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J (Hot, Holy & Humorous) June 6, 2011 at 4:14 pm

So very true. I have a rule I follow about not being alone with a non-related adult male. I don’t think I could cheat on my husband, but it is the precaution I take. It’s a standard I have set. I have written that that rule on my blog.

More people need to set standards to guard their marriage and honor their spouse in their decision-making.

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