Encouraging Your Man After God’s Own Heart

March 22, 2011

in the generous life

(Looking at how I come up with tips…) Sometimes I get my ideas from scripture.

At my church right now we are going through 2 Samuel, chapter 16.  We are at the part where Absolam chased off David and is trying to be king in his stead.  It’s a really sad part because David is basically reaping the consequences of his earlier sin with Bathsheba (12:7-14).  As I read this story and listened to folks discuss it, I kept hearing the same thing over and over again.  David was such a cool man of God, but as a husband and father … well, he failed pretty badly at times.

OK, here come the tip idea.  Our husbands are human just like David.  They will fail at some things and excel at others.  It’s tempting to throw them away for their failings (especially when it comes to the husband and father stuff), but we need to take in the bigger picture of who they are.  Start with prayer.  How does God want us to see our husbands?  Acknowledge the truth (the good and the bad), but make room for God to work.  Just because your husband has a problem withtoday, doesn’t mean it will always be so.  You can pray for him, walk with him, and encourage him.  Remind him of all the areas where he and God are doing well.  Let him know that he can be a man after God’s own heart today and that his failings need to be seen within that context (this is not an excuse for sin, but an understanding of grace, forgiveness and the ongoing work of the Holy Spirit as He grows us up).

Grace isn’t a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal.  It’s a way to live.   attributed to Jacqueline Winspear

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Mellissa March 22, 2011 at 5:45 am

This is so timely in our home right now- DH is a great provider and tries really hard to be a good Dad- But then he has almost given up the spiritual part and leaves it all up to me. I keep waiting and have since children started coming for 8 years. He simply keeps no time nor energy for being a spiritual leader and HE KNOWS it! I love him and try not to badger him–He does not want anyone from church to meddle or confront nor even ask anything of him! He is faithful to take us each Sunday morning but it stops there. This from someone who was a Promise Keeper just before we married—Advice anyone??


leslie March 23, 2011 at 3:41 am

Mellissa, that’s a tough one. I have been in the same position with my husband. He was divorced and there are 2 children from that marriage. I found that he would cower when they were here and not want to pray or go to church. We have 2 small children together and he would lead them and pray with them, but be a different man when his older 2 came around. I want to encourage you to pray, pray, pray and encourage him and affirm him and love him no matter what. God knows best and will change him in time. Patience and love have worked for me. I bless you with peace for this journey and joy unspeakable. Know that it is never too late to start leading your family. The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian has been a good book for me. I will be praying for you and your family. May God bless you in all you do.


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