Comparisons are generally pretty hurtful. We are not as good looking (intelligent, talented, etc.) as another person. The comparison stings and leaves us feeling less than valuable. There is another kind of comparison, however, that is uplifting.
Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. Song of Songs 2:3 NIV
When you talk about your husband and he is like a good thing or better than a good thing, he is encouraged and feels valued. Now don’t exaggerate or lie. That is just going to seriously backfire on you. Instead consider his strengths and abilities and compare him to something good. Speak accurately.
“You are such a good friend to Joe. I know he really counts on you when he needs help.” (That’s not saying his other friends are bad, just that your husband stands out in the crowd as caring and reliable.)
“I love your writing style. It always reminds me of Robert Frost’s poems.”
“I like your chili the best!”
If your husband has a nice sense of humor you can do silly comparisons as well.
“Dude, Julia Child’s got nothing on you.” (Yes, my husband can cook.)
Be generous! Lori <><