Having been a homemaker most of my life, I realized that my home has largely been run by my preferences. Now up to a point that is reasonable. If I’m going to do the laundry then the laundry room should be set up so that it works for me. However, there are plenty of areas where my space collides with other family members. What to do? I think it is a generous thing to consider the preferences of others along with your own. Often there are ways to accommodate several preferences. For example if your kids want to play games in the living room and you hate all the bits and the look of the games setting out, find a closed cabinet that will house the games (you won’t have to look at them all the time) and the kids can play their games on a roomy coffee table (provided they clean up after themselves, if they leave them out they lose game privileges for a few days or they have to play at the kitchen table). Win/win with some clear boundaries.
So how about your husband? What areas of the house call for some input from him? In what way can you accommodate some of his preferences? Try to work in win/win solutions where you both feel your needs and preferences are being met. Be willing to bend to his preferences, especially in areas where you don’t have strong preferences. (My husband loves red. I’m not up to huge amounts of red. We have red in our bedspread and one of the pillows is really, really red. I’m working up the courage to paint a wall red in the kitchen. I think I’m warming up to the color enough that I might actually start buying personal items in red. They’re kind of fun and I know they’ll catch my sweetie’s attention.)
Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break. Jane Wells
Be generous! Lori <><