Be a Safe Place

February 10, 2011

in the generous life

*** 4 days until Valentine’s Day ***  (another Valentine idea – thanks Lacey!)

We all need a safe place in which to unload our feelings and thoughts, a place where someone will really listen and not judge or condemn.  Be that safe place for your husband.  Let him talk and share without complaints, judgments, unasked for advice, etc.

The first duty of love is to listen.  Paul Tillich

Be generous!  Lori <><

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April February 10, 2011 at 6:34 am

This is so on point with what i’m experiencing right now w/ my husband and myself. Neither of us talk or communicate. We’ve been married 3 years and it only seems to get worse. It’s so sad and frustrating at the same time. He’s like a turtle in the shell when it comes to talk–won’t even poke his head out. Me, i’m just afraid of hurting him with what I say or feel…… so this has only resulted in my body filled with anger…. I want to be able to talk to him without the judgements or anger from him, and I want him to WANT to talk to me!

Thank goodness for good counselors, and prayer!!

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Michelle February 10, 2011 at 6:59 am

For APRIL: My husband and I were given this book by his parents when we got engaged. Reading it together has been the single greatest thing we have done for our marriage apart from anchoring it to Christ.It is all about communicating and receiving communication. It is now our “go to ” wedding gift. Cinderella Meets the Caveman: Stop the Boredom in Your Marriage and Jump-Start the Passion by David Clarke.

http://www.amazon.com/Cinderella-Meets-Caveman-Marriage-Jump-Start/dp/0736919112/ref=sr_1_fkmr2_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1297349581&sr=1-1-fkmr2

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pinkcombatboots February 10, 2011 at 7:20 am

This is something my husband and I are working on too. We had some very amazing moments (at least to me) during our courtship years. Times when I believe we both felt very free to be open and real with each other. We’ve been married a little over a month now and it’s been something we’ve been continuing to work on. I so badly want to be “safe” for my husband, but it’s definitely a learning curve for me. Part of what I’ve been learning though is that it means taking chances. Mutual communication is important too!

Thanks for all the wonderful tips!

http://www.pinkcombatboots.wordpress.com

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April February 10, 2011 at 8:59 am

Thanks everyone! I just ordered the Cinderella Meets Caveman book! :) I also started reading Gary Chapman’s book on Anger last night too. :)

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