My husband and I have spent the last couple of weeks traveling. As we travel we tend to watch people and jot down ideas for the generous blogs. One thing I noted was just the overall attitudes of people. How lovely it was to talk with smiling, happy people and how difficult it was to talk with negative, cranky people. I try not to judge (because I have my cranky moments), but you can’t help at least note the difference and how much nicer it is to deal with people who are being pleasant.
Then I picked up the latest Spirit magazine (Southwest airlines) and read this article where Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky is quoted. “We have 225 studies [that say] that once you’re a happy person, you’re more likely to make your marriage work.” The whole gist of the article was about the great perks of being happy, what happiness is and how we can grow in our ability to be happy.
I thought about the connection between happy attitudes and the willingness to work on your marriage. Made sense, but also I realized how much easier it would be to build your marriage if you are happy and generally pleasant. I took a long look at my own attitudes. For the most part I have made being pleasant to others a habit (especially to my husband and kids). But happy? I tend to be a “glass that is half empty” kind of gal. I’m not rude about it, but I tend to weigh deficiencies and problems before I notice and give place to assets and strengths. Am I allowing the negatives to rule my attitudes? Just to check it out, I’m going to be very intentional about noticing, talking about and joining in on the good, the beautiful, the fun, etc. for awhile. Anyone care to join me?
Smile; it the second best thing one can do with one’s lips. Author Unknown
Be generous! Lori <><