In Support of Ideas

January 11, 2011

in the generous life

Growing up most us have heard messages like “that’s a stupid idea” or even harsher messages like, “you are stupid” or “you’ll never amount to anything.”  Our guys need to hear something different from us.  Practice encouraging your husband and his ideas.  I’m not saying you should lie or promote ideas that are harmful, but rather that you should practice kind words and a belief that he is capable of greatness.

My husband once had the brilliant idea that we should walk across the USA.  I was not so deeply impressed, but I also know that most talk is brainstorming and sounding out ideas.  I just went along and enjoyed the talk, knowing that it would fade or turn into some first steps (pardon the pun) toward that goal.  Walking is healthy, so it’s not like it was a bad thing.  We never did walk across the nation (a part of discussing it disclosed several problems that we weren’t willing to work through), but we had some lovely talks and walks.  We’ve tossed around several dreams over the years.  Some happened, some didn’t.  My husband knows that I love him and I love his dreams, even if some of them are fluff and nonsense.  It’s all good.

Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try! Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Thinks You Can Think!

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Anita Montgomery January 11, 2011 at 6:50 am

We actually have friends that have done this! First they walked in the US, then started in other countries, just finished their last journey! Amazing!

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Leslie T January 11, 2011 at 12:13 pm

I try, I really do, and I’ve never used the verbage that the idea or he is stupid, but gosh, so MANY of them are not well thought out at all, yet he goes so much farther than the brainstorming stage before realizing the folly. It’s exhausting to hear and watch, catch the fallout, and wait for the next “brilliant idea.”

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The Generous Wife January 11, 2011 at 8:36 pm

@Leslie You might want to tell him how you love his creativity and ability to dream, but then suggest that he run his ideas past someone (perhaps a good friend) with business ability before moving forward. Or you might look into a business or life coach for him. This is someone who can help him sound out his plans before he moves on them.

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The Generous Wife January 11, 2011 at 8:36 pm

@Anita So cool that your friends were able to make that dream come true.

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