I’ve been studying to be a life coach lately and one of the tools suggested for setting goals is an acronym.
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Attainable
R – Relevant
T – Targeted Time
When you are creating new goals make sure they are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and have specific target times. Saying “I want to have a neater home” is a good idea, but doesn’t give you any specific direction in doing that. A more doable goal is “I want to dejunk my living room this month and I’m going to invite my friend Helen over to help me with that process.” You’ve picked a reasonable sized goal, given yourself a target time and you’ve even thrown in a bit of help and accountability. The goal is relevant to your desire to have a neater home and it’s attainable (you’re dealing with just one room over a month’s time, perhaps schedule a work day each Thursday and work through an area at a time). Measurable is going to be a bit “relative” because you will work until you are satisfied with the result (a personal taste issue). Having a month to work through the process will help you narrow down to a standard you like.
Start with just a few small goals and work until you have finished the project or created a habit (most folks say it takes about 21 days of doing something to make a habit). Then make a few more goals (maybe dejunk the bedrooms).
If your husband is thinking through changes as well, share the SMART acronym and be a sounding board and encourager for his efforts.
How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to? Anthony Robbins
Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:
My husband is so cute. He just had to give out some marriage awards:
2010 TGH Marriage & Sexuality Blog Awards
The Romantic Vineyard: The Things We’ll Miss 4 kleenex alert for the video
Intimacy in Marriage: 3 Reasons Your Husband Likes It When You Climax
Journey to Surrender: Shame and Intimacy – Sexual Shame part 4 of a series
Marriage Gems: How Mary and Joseph Would Have Used Facebook very cute!
Black & Married With Kids: Family Goals for the New Year
One Flesh Marriage: Twisted Resolutions and Seek and You Will Find …
Simplify 101: Create a Home Reference Binder
The Confident Mom: Realistic Resolutions – Bite Sized!
Take Control Organizing: The Gift of Being Organized