Cleave in the Holidays

November 20, 2010

in the generous life

Just a little holiday reminder …
Our marriage relationship is very important.  Yes, we need to love on and respect extended family, but not at the expense of our husband.

God is very clear – when we marry, we LEAVE our home of origin and CLEAVE to our spouse, creating a new family and home.  What that means practically is that we need to take into consideration what is good for our spouse.  We may need to stand up for our spouse with our family of origin, and we don’t ask our spouse to be someone they are not or treat them differently at family gatherings.

I realize that family expectations can be challenging during the holiday season, but I strongly encourage you to highly value your husband and your marriage during the coming holidays.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  Genesis 2:24 NKJV


Links to blog posts that stood out to me this last week:

Anonymous8: Why Being Vulnerable is Good for You and I Am Enough

Resurgence: The 6 Second Kiss
Marriage Gems: Add a Little More Joy to Your Family’s Holiday
Black & Married With Kids: Four Phrases to Add to Your Marriage Today
and Why Compromise If You Are Going to be a — About It?
Marc & Angel Hack Life: 60 Ways to Make Life Simple Again
The Clutter Diet: Got Holiday Whiplash? 10 Ways to Simplify Now
The Romantic Vineyard: Fragrant Aroma: Fresh Breezes and Marriage Bill of Rights
The Marry Blogger: Shocker: 6 in 10 Say Marriage is NOT Obsolete! and


Be generous! Lori <><

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Danielle November 23, 2010 at 1:45 pm

Thanks for the reminder! We have found this to be such a huge issue for having a successful marriage; I forwarded this one to my husband just as a little reminder :)


Lisa J November 27, 2010 at 1:14 pm

I agree….but we have come to the point where some in my family treat my hubby so poorly he doesn’t want to see them at Christmas….I feel really caught in the middle and we are very upset by it all. I know I need to be standing with him…he is a good man and there is no reason for my family to treat him this way….I dread the Christmas season……. :(


Gary November 20, 2012 at 6:26 am

This is awesome and a message that just doesn’t get talked about enough. So thankful that my wife and I are on the same page about this topic. She has some robust extended family challenges so I find myself running interference as appropriate and it’s very helpful for her. I have no problem playing the heavy and saying no to repeated social engagements and intrusions. We stay connected with family but define clear limits. Ultimately the holidays are for us to hold each other and our kids close in our little place in the world.

Thanks for posting this!


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