My husband did a lovely post about the issue of mistrust. Often people don’t trust because in the past others have been less than kind. The hard part is when that kind of mistrust hangs over your marriage relationship. When your husband mistrusts you because of his history (not because of anything you have done), it can set up a world of hurt and miscommunication.
“Make different promises, or even better, do, don’t say.” (from Seth Godin’s post Won’t Get Fooled Again) Let your actions speak for you. Let what you do (rather than what you say) help heal your husband’s mistrust and create a stronger relationship. Yes, that takes a bit of “intentionality.” You have to think through what the issues are and then decide upon a course of action. Then be consistent. Let your husband see that he can trust you on an ongoing basis.
Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate. Albert Schweitzer
Be generous! Lori <><