Real Thanks

October 29, 2010

in the generous life

Rethink your holidays.

I realize I’ve said this a few times already, but it bears repeating.  Thanksgiving is about a month away.  Holiday expectations can be stressful, especially with extended family thrown into the deal.  How do you want to express your thankfulness?

Be creative.  Talk to your husband and family about what is important to them and plan a holiday that is rich in meaning instead of full or what you are “supposed to do.”

This year my husband, son and I are dining out at a nice buffet, just the three of us.  We may join with friends during the season (with small fun hostess gifts in tow), but we’re going for the simple and easy family time route.  Please feel free to share your Thanksgiving ideas as a comment to this tip.

Thanksgiving dinners take eighteen hours to prepare. They are consumed in twelve minutes. Half-times take twelve minutes. This is not coincidence.  Erma Bombeck

Be generous!  Lori <><

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Denise October 29, 2010 at 3:24 am

I must say I love most of your tips however as a former waitress I can tell you the idea of eating out on thanksgiving gives me chills. Those people don’t get to enjoy the holiday with their family because people are willing to eat out instead of cooking. I am not saying that cooking a full meal is the way to go but if people would stay home waitresses would be able to be with their family. So if you do eat out leave an extra big tip to the person missing thanksgiving with their family.


The Generous Wife October 29, 2010 at 11:03 am

@Denise: I do appreciate your perspective and gals need to weigh that into the mix (Is this good for your family? Will they miss out on something that comes with the at home meal?). For my family and I, dining out is an adventure (we love to try all kinds of restaurants) and we laugh and carry on a lot. It’s a good thing for us and, yes, we tip big. I’ve always had a heart for waitstaff (they have to put up with so much).


Glenna Sadler October 29, 2010 at 6:53 am

For several years now, we have made Thanksgiving a family vacation time to visit our oldest grandsons in Florida. They live in Orlando, so we pick them up and go to a rented house near the ocean. Over the years, different family members have joined us, but we always have my husband, our 10 year-old, and two teenage grandsons. We get quality and quantity together. We spend the week enjoying each other’s company. We cook instead of eating out. We enjoy walks on the beach instead of touristy, expensive activities. We watch movies in the house we rent instead of going to a theater. We all have a wonderful time. It’s something we look forward to doing again as soon as we leave for home. As our grandsons get older, someone will have to break the tradition, but we will always have the memories.


Jess October 29, 2010 at 11:02 am

We had a serious talk and decided that what we really, truly wanted was the hustle and bustle of the season.

Thanksgiving day will be spent helping my mom make turkey and teaching my sister in law how to make her first pumpkin pie. The boys will watch football with grandpa while the Daddies sit around and catch up.

Thanksgiving evening will be spent at a cousin’s house picking at the leftovers everyone brings in and playing cards or video games or just talking the night away.

The mom’s will wake up extra early for some shopping on Black Friday and we’ll meet up with the dads & kids at 10 for breakfast at our favorite restaurant and the kids will bug us silly trying to figure out what we bought and who we bought it for. When we tell them that we bought socks and undies they’ll beg even more…

Sunday we’ll have friends over for Thanksgiving dinner at our house. The kids will all fall asleep in various beds upstairs or down and we’ll assure the Mom’s that everyone will be fine to sleep over and their kids will be delivered safely after dh and I serve pancakes with way too many chocolate chips for breakfast.

Christmas will be even more busy fun!

We tried to think of something that would make the holidays easier, less hectic, less stressful. We couldn’t think of anything that would cut out stress but leave the fun. All the stress and money and time are so worth it for us… for our kids… for the memories.


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