BELIEVE MY COMPLIMENTS AND WORDS OF LOVE
Many men felt that their words of love and appreciation were not accepted. Most of them acknowledged that it seemed to be more about their wife’s self-image rather than because they were unbelievable.
That said, there was a lot of grief expressed over the level of self-hatred and self-doubt that women routinely express. The men felt that their words were not received and that grieved them because 1) they want to communicate their love and appreciation and 2) they hate to see their wives berate and belittle themselves (especially given that they see them as lovable, beautiful women!).
I’m not entirely sure what the solution is, but learning to say, “thank you” would be a wonderful gift to give your husband when he compliments you.
Any of you that are struggling with poor self-image, I encourage you to seek God’s truth about your worth and ask Him to help you build standards that are in keeping with His Word, rather than what the world has to offer.
Generous tip: The next time your husband compliments you, take a deep breath, smile and say, “thank you.” Just, “thank you.” Nothing more. Don’t follow up with reasons why you are not perfect or why whatever it is you are being complimented over is not quite perfect, or whatever. Just, “thank you.” (Bite your tongue if you have to!)
Be generous! Lori <><