BE MY FRIEND & COMPANION
A number of men talked about wanting their wife to be their companion in life, to connect daily, to relax and spend time together. The need for emotional and relational connection was high and there was a real desire to know what their wife thinks, wants, doesn’t want, etc. They wanted to share their dreams, pray and talk through their personal wounds, and just generally be close, intimate friends for life.
One facet of this was a strong desire to meet on equal terms, to appreciate and accept each other, to enjoy and work with each other, differences and all, in a way that respects each others uniqueness.
What tended to throw a spanner in the works, was rejection. When a husband felt that his feelings, dreams, etc. where not welcomed (or at least listened to), then it was easy to withdraw. It’s hard to connect and share from your heart when you feel your thoughts are not accepted.
Generous tip: make up a “report” on your husband. What does he like, not like, dream of, need, desire, etc. Pray over your report and ask the Lord to help you be a companion and friend to this man. Ask God to help you understand him and relate to him in ways that take into account both of your natures.
Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure. Jewish saying
Be generous! Lori <><