What Husbands Want – Appreciate Me

October 19, 2010

in the generous life


This is a pretty basic need. We all need to be appreciated, to feel loved and of worth. So gals, appreciate what your husband does around the house, how hard he works at his job, and how well he does (fill in the blank). Let him know how much you appreciate his looks, his masculinity, his talents, his character, etc.

Words are great, but actions can speak pretty loudly too. Ask for his help when you need it. Ask for his opinions or for ideas. Make room for him to do things for you and with you, and appreciate him for his help.

And when all is said and done, be sure to say “thank you.”

Generous tip: Look for opportunities to say “thank you” to your husband. Be specific about what you are thanking him for and say it with an appreciative tone in your voice.

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.  Mother Teresa

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Praise and Coffee October 19, 2010 at 3:30 am

Love your website, I’m posting about it today!!!
Keep up the great work!


Marcy October 19, 2010 at 5:32 am

I have a wonderful husband who works hard and loves our family. I try to show him appreciation each and every day. I have one area of difficulty, however, and am so confused as how to address it. My husband is overweight and is taking medicine for high blood pressure and cholesterol. When we met, he was only slightly smaller than he is now, but he was going with me to the gym 3 times per week and eating healthier. Once we got married (5 years ago), he stopped altogether. I was under the impression when we married that he would maintain his healthy lifestyle that I saw when we met / dated. I don’t necessarily care that he loses weight. I do care however that he seems NOT to care about taking care of himself for his family. We have two children. He travels quite a bit so is not home to eat healthy meals. And if he is, he uses the excuse that he ate a late lunch and is not interested in dinner. He eats a lot of fatty, unhealthy fast food (despite the healthier options that are so readily available now). I have asked him to go along with me for walks in the evening, ride bikes with the kids on a Saturday afternoon, etc. I will re-state that I love him dearly. I show respect for him and appreciation for him each and every day. But his lifestyle is not what he presented me before marriage and it bothers me. How do I stay “generous” and speak to him about it? I want our children to have a father for a long time. And I want him around for a long time. He is ten years older than I – he’s 45 – so, it’s not like he’s got tons of time, energy, etc. I just want to be able to bring this up to him without being disrespectful or cause hurt feelings. Thanks.


Sharon Cohen October 19, 2010 at 7:10 am

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