More On Giving Gifts

October 8, 2010

in the generous life

I read an interesting post by Seth Godin where he talks about the difference between giving something free (from a business standpoint as a strategy) and giving a gift (as a generous expression).  With the holidays approaching I find that a helpful concept.  There are so many relational issues with family (even husbands) and friends that can make gift giving a problem, certainly a stress.  Can we turn giving back into an expression of love and generosity?  Can we get rid of strings attached, the expectations of gift exchanges, etc.?

Sometimes I just ask myself, “What would I give if I just wanted to give this person a gift?  What would I give if I didn’t expect a gift back?  If I didn’t have to deal with their expectations or the expectations of others?  It helps me sort out my thoughts and feelings and often I come up with some fun innovative gifts.  (It’s also helpful when you know the gift will be unappreciated no matter what the gift is.  The gift is good and reasonable.  You’re not responsible for the response.)

What is a true gift? One for which nothing is expected in return.  Chinese Proverb

Be generous!  Lori <><

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Casey October 8, 2010 at 5:18 am

Thanks for bringing up this topic. Thanksgiving has been my favorite holiday for a long time because it is low key and much more relaxed. It’s just about family being together and being thankful for God’s blessings without any gift obligations or expectations. I am delighted that Christmas is beginning to be more like Thanksgiving for our families. We eliminated gifts with our extended relatives years ago but this year, our immediate family has opted to go out for a nice dinner together instead of exchanging gifts. When we were first married, we were buying for 35 family members!! Now we’re just buying for the kids and it is so much more enjoyable! :)


Seaweedandraine October 8, 2010 at 8:54 pm

I couldn’t agree more with what you have said.I was wondering if you would mind if I shared your thoughts on my blog – and linked it back to your site?
.-= Seaweedandraine´s last blog ..My Creative Space – One down- One to go! =-.


Kim October 8, 2012 at 2:27 am

What a refreshing perspective! There is so much tied into gift giving, and so much concern about how the gift will be perceived and possibly judged! This allows for letting go of all those concerns and focusing on the why of giving. Thanks!


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