Climbing Out of the Zone

July 29, 2010

in the generous life

This week my husband, son and I moved into a new (to us) home.  Stressful, yes.  I noticed something that I want to change.  Both my husband and I got a little short with each other when we were asked to do something that was outside of our “plan” for the day.  It’s like we had a bit of tunnel vision and we got cranky when we were asked to look at or consider something else outside of that zone.

How well do you handle a sudden change of plans?  Most of the time I do fairly well.  I think maybe the shortness of energy was a part of the problem for me this time.  I had only so much energy and I planned where to use it.  Being asked to change that plan meant possibly not having enough energy to do what I wanted.  I needed to communicate my needs better and realize that, in the scope of the move, a change in order wasn’t that big of a deal.

Patience is the companion of wisdom.  St. Augustine

Be generous!  Lori <><

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Amanda McClain July 29, 2010 at 6:12 am

Lori,
It is a comfort to me to know that even you and your husband still run short with each other now and then. Not that I want anyone to get short with their spouse in their marriage, I just find it comforting to be reminded that even those who are intentional about working on their marriage fall short sometimes.
My husband and I have known each other for over 12 years, but only been married for 5. I have learned, painfully and slowly, to let his comments roll right off when I know he is making them in frustration. Sometimes I will even remind him, you aren’t frustrated with me, but the situation, lack of time, whatever. Please don’t talk to me that way, you don’t like it when I talk to you that way. He usually apologizes right then and clarifies what his frustration is which then allows me to help if I can. Communicatiion, even when frustrated, can save so much hurt and pain if we take the time to do it right.
Thanks for all your hard work, love, and duty to the Lord. You are a blessing to my day and I will continue to pray for you and your husband as you work where God leads you.

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