The other day I saw a web site and it was really, really, really good (it was like unbelievably good). For one moment I thought, “how can I compete with that?” Thankfully at that moment, God reminded me that I wasn’t supposed to be like them, I was supposed to be like me. God wants to work through everyone and in a myriad of ways. It’s all good. We can learn from others, but we’re not supposed to be like them.
I got to thinking about that moment and how that kind of comparison can mentality play out in marriages. We look at other marriages and tend to see their good stuff and compare it to our bad stuff and then feel like we’ll never have a good marriage. Or, on the other extreme, we look at others’ failings and see that “we are so much better.” I think all that comparing is just asking for trouble. Certainly we can look at other marriages and learn from them (both as good and bad examples), but truly we need to seek God’s direction for our marriages given that we are each unique. My marriage won’t look entirely like yours and that’s very OK. Recognize that we are all different people with different gifts living in different seasons of life.
Let God reveal His purposes for your marriage and what that should look like.
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one. Eleanor Roosevelt
Be generous! Lori <><