In a previous post I talked about it how we need to treat our husbands like adults and not see it as our job to correct them. A generous wife had this comment to say and I think it is very important and needs to be factored in.
It IS our job to correct them. If we don’t, who will? Of course, we must do so in a loving, respectful, and private manner. We are each others iron, so sharpening him IS my job.
What I was speaking to in the original post is the wrongful attitude that “we know better how our spouses should be” and that it’s our job to change them (it really isn’t our job, they are not children to shape and mold). However, we are responsible to those around us to speak the truth in love (to correct, encourage, etc.) and we can expect that our influence will effect change in their lives.
It’s an odd balance that is really about heart attitude. It’s God’s job to change our husbands and they are adults that need to be treated with respect. However, because we are in relationship with them, we can expect that God will use us to speak to our husbands and be a part of the process that brings about change in them. If we take it upon ourselves to decide the direction of that change or constantly correct our husbands then we have overstepped our bounds. If we speak the truth with kindness, trusting that God is able to change our husbands (as He doing with us), then we are likely to retain our sanity and give our husbands the respect they deserve (as well as respecting the work of the Holy Spirit as He matures us all).
As we grow as unique persons, we learn to respect the uniqueness of others. Robert Schuller
Be generous! Lori <><