Your husband is an adult. He can think for himself, he can choose a course of action, etc. He is an individual and he is not like anyone else, even you. I say all this to let you off the hook for fixing him or changing him. He is an adult. He gets to be himself and choose for himself. He gets to have ideas and beliefs of his own.
That said, there are going to be days when we will be tempted to try and change our husbands. Maybe we’ll feel the need to explain his words or actions to our friends. I encourage y’all not to go there. Make room in your conversations for him to have opinions and ideas that are different than yours. Don’t expect him to like what you like or believe what you believe. If folks take issue with him and try to get you to change him, suggest to folks that he’s a big boy and they need to talk with him.
As we grow as unique persons, we learn to respect the uniqueness of others. Robert Schuller
Be generous! Lori <><