June 29, 2010

in the generous life

Another great post from The Generous Husband … it’s an integrity thing.

A recent Happily Married After post entitled The Whole Truth and Nothing But the Truth caught my attention because of a situation I’ve run into recently where people are engaging in what I call spin. I define spin as selectively relaying facts to favour what you want people to hear and think, rather than what the ‘truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth’ would have them hear and think. This “art” has also been called “massaging the truth” or “putting the best face on the truth”. It seems to me that the Bible calls these tactics something else – something rude and judgmental like LYING.

The Happily Married After post, by David Patrick, said: “It’s real important to be completely honest with your spouse. You don’t get to decide what or how much you think they can handle. That’s not your decision to make. Let them decide once you’ve told the whole truth.”

I agree completely with David, and I want to look at that in terms of spin. I doubt I am the only husband who has ever spun the facts to his bride. It’s easy to tell ourselves that we are doing them a favour, that we are protecting them from the harsh reality. It’s easy to think that, but it’s usually not the truth. Odds are we are doing it to cover our errors, or to avoid her anger, sadness, frustration and so on. However, no matter why we do it, isn’t it wrong? How can we justify lying to our bride?!

As David has suggested, if it’s not the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the (unspun) truth, it’s not the truth. So the question is this, do you have the guts to always tell you bride the truth?

A half truth is a whole lie. Yiddish Proverb

Be generous!  Lori <><

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