Be Prepared

June 7, 2010

in the generous life

One of the things I did early on when I was learning how to watch my tongue, was to practice saying sentences that would help me in stressful moments.  For example, when I felt like going off, I had a ready sentence or two.  “Can we talk about this in a half hour or so?  I’m really stressed and I need some time to calm down and gather my thoughts.”  I also used, “I need to go for a walk,” more than a few times.

This “be prepared” kind of concept works for all sorts of situations.  If you find yourself facing the same mess over and over again, consider for the next time what you could say differently.  It can work for something as simple as your after work greeting to your husband to the more stressful holiday situations.  It’s all about watching your life, looking for the bumps and bruises, and thinking through how you can effect change in the future with your words.

Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.  Pearl Strachan

Be generous!  Lori <><

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pansy shehee June 7, 2010 at 3:29 am

Thanks for the tip. That makes me feel good that you too have to calm down. I have had to vow to myself never to slam doors or use curse words. I am not a cursing person, but my husband knows how to push my buttons. that sounds like a am throwing blame and I know I am responsible for my actions and mood and words but yet he really has something to do with it. I am glad I no longer slam doors and I sometimes take walks around the blocks to calm down.

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Robin June 7, 2010 at 8:48 am

Thanks for the tip! I’ve often thought there must be a way to diffuse a situation when emotions are running high, but never really knew just what to do. I often just retreat to the locked bedroom/bathroom which doesn’t always work. I’m going to remember this, thanks!

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Louise June 7, 2010 at 1:51 pm

Just read about this in _Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work_ today! They said that healthy marriages use this technique. I guess it doesn’t work for some folks and those are the marriages that don’t end well, I guess.

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