I’m kind of an organizing nut. I was born that way and being married to a messie has mellowed me in some ways, but I still have moments of organizing madness. All that aside, being organized is a really helpful skill to learn. Even if it doesn’t come naturally to you, taking the time and effort to fix problems by being a bit more organized can take a lot of friction out of your marriage.
I found a really nice blog about organizing and I’m passing it along to y’all as a resource, along with a copy of an article I wrote for an e-book (they made me keep it under 400 words, jeesh).
Be generous! Lori <><
The Sock Drawer: How being organized helps you both function better, have more time
Organizing is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it’s not all mixed up. Winnie-the-Pooh / A.A. Milne
So often people think “being organized” makes you boring or takes lot of time to maintain. Actually, organizing can save you time, make what you do easier, give you the flexibility to grab unexpected opportunities or make a little spontaneous fun. If you have a hidden cache of gifts, when your spouse is having a down day, you are ready with a little pick-me-up gift. If you’re current in your responsibilities, you can run off together for the afternoon. If your house is well organized, there is less relational friction (no more key hunting and being late, again).
ORGANIZE ACTIVITIES – Sit down every week or two and look at your calendar together. Mark appointments, note holidays, brainstorm, look for and remove time eaters, and plan those things that have value to you. No more missed appointments or confusion about who is where and doing what.
ORGANIZE SPACE – List the different areas of your home and ask yourself who does what in each room. Make sure that you have the items you need and the space you need to do those activities. It may mean that an activity gets moved to another room or that less-used items get moved to storage.
ORGANIZE SELF – Being organized has made me a better spouse. I leave fewer messes for my husband to trip over. I’m more thoughtful and considerate when I plan ahead. I can be a help or just have fun, because I know what I have in time and resources.
SO HOW TO START – As you walk through your day, write down where you see a problem. Do you bump into each other in the bathroom? Run out of computer paper? Routinely have to buy last minute gifts for holidays? Take each problem and brain storm. How might you organize your time or space so that this doesn’t happen again? Try your solution (if it doesn’t work try another). Ask friends how they handle it. Do a search online for organizing ideas or read a book. It will be worth the effort as you find yourself with time well invested, a freedom to play and less friction in your marriage relationship.
Lori Byerly <><
Author of The Generous Wife, daily e-tips for blessing your husband