My husband shared this tip yesterday.
The other day my bride was talking about how different she and I are, and how I was doing something that she would never do. As she finished her comments, she said something wonderful – she said “But it works for you.”
I was greatly blessed by those words because it told me she was not trying to change me, or trying to convince me I was wrong. She was noting a real difference in how we approach life, but she also validated my way of doing it.
I really like this tip, because at its heart is kindness and respect. Knowing that your spouse is different and making room for that difference is a sincere expression of love and is a big part of what it takes to get along. When you start having bits of fussiness between you and your husband, look to see if what is really happening is about differences. If so, look for ways of accommodating (respecting) your differences in finding a solution.
Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict … Dorothy Thompson
Be generous! Lori <><